I need to off load! I'm at a point where I think things will never change. This is long, sorry, but don't want to leave anything out....
Ds is 6. We've had problems with wetting since he started potty training aged 2.5. Maybe he wasn't ready, I don't know, but he never quite got it. He would go for a wee in the potty and later on the toilet, but his pants and often trousers would normally be wet before he got there. Had the usual crap advice: "boys take longer to get potty training, he'll get there" and "he's just too caught up in what he's doing and forgets to go" etc. I knew deep down there was something not right but I trusted the advice of nursery, family, friends etc as he was my 1st child and had never been through this (potty training) before.
So, fast forward a bit. Ds starts reception and he's still wetting him self, but is also pooing himself aswell. He started having more frequent poo accidents about 6months before starting reception. Again, got the same advice as above. It got to around his 5th birthday (while he's still in reception) and I needed to potty train ds2. I was dreading it tbh. I thought I would probably have some sort of melt down with the stress I was anticipating. However, ds2 was s dream! He got it in 2days and had (and still has) excellent bladder and bowel control. This was my alarm. This made me realise that ds1 did have a prob. So during a routine health questionnaire at school, I asked for Ds to be referred to the school nurse about his toileting problems.
He has been seeing the school nurse every 6wks for a year. He had also seen the pediatrician a couple of times. Hrs finally been referred to a bladder and bowel specialist in 2months time. He takes oxybutynin hydrochloride for urinary incontinence caused by overactive/irritable bladder and movicol to encourage regular bowel movements. He eats a very.healthy diet, plenty of fibre. We avoid Apple juice, Orange juice and artificial sweetners as these make his wetting accidents more likely as they irritate the bladder.
So back to tonight and the reason I'm pulling my hair out! He's been doing really well with pooing on the toilet, getting there in time, no accidents etc for over a week. So he gets a reward today and is so happy. However, he has then wet himself during the day and pood his pants this afternoon. He didn't tell me he'd pood himself until bath time. By this point his skin is sore, he's embarrassed and screaming and crying. I'm trying to remain calm and say its ok, I'm not cross, when really, inside, I hate this. Four years of cleaning up wee and poo on my Ds is driving me nuts.
Plus, all I really want is a glass of wine, but I can't as I'm pregnant! If you've got this far, thank you and well done! If anyone has any advice, I would welcome it. If you're in a similar situation and want to share, please do!