more of a wwyd re vaccinations - no debate please.

[eastendywendy]

Dd is 20 months. She hasn't had her MMR yet for various reasons. She had her other jags 3 weeks ago and I was told the earliest she could have her MMR was 14th June (4 weeks after pneumo and HiB). The nurse was not very nice about it all, at all.

I DO want her immunised but we are all at a wedding 2 days after her MMR and I don't want her ill if I can help it as I'm doing a reading and can't miss the wedding. I should mention I have PND/Anxiety so would worry.

However, this weather has people from all over the world coming so I don't want to expose her to anything unnecessarily. WWYD? Vaccinate on 14th before wedding or wait until after?

This wedding not weather!

Sounds like you will worry either way so which worry is worse?
There's no particular reason to think overseas guests will be carriers of mumps, measles or rubella, is there?
Otoh, she more than likely will have no side effects of mmr after 2 days so either way should be no worse than the situation for the last 7 months or so

Honestly, I don't think it's a big deal either way, in that the stakes are not that high either way. Would you miss the wedding if she had a bit of a temp or just give her calpol? Would you feel forever guilty if she got mumps/measles the week before having the jab?

Sounds like you will worry either way so which worry is worse?
There's no particular reason to think overseas guests will be carriers of mumps, measles or rubella, is there?
Otoh, she more than likely will have no side effects of mmr after 2 days so either way should be no worse than the situation for the last 7 months or so

Honestly, I don't think it's a big deal either way, in that the stakes are not that high either way. Would you miss the wedding if she had a bit of a temp or just give her calpol? Would you feel forever guilty if she got mumps/measles the week before having the jab?

I woudlnt miss the wedding but I'd be a bit of a wreck tbh.

I'd feel froever guilty, yes.

I would do it before the wedding, the most that can happen is that she gets a high temp the day of vaccination, she will not get ill from it don't worry-my 4 dcs have never become ill due to a vaccination.
Wouldn't you rather she was protected against such nasty diseases anyway even if it meant her getting ill (unlikely).
Not only that, people coming from abroad are a potential risk to her if shes not vaccinated

AFAIK the reaction to MMR (if she gets one) doesn't usually set in til 7-10 days after the vaccination, so in theory you should be safe wrt the wedding.

Thanks.

Winny - that's a good point actually - off to look it up now.

Mine were both fine after mmr. Like absolutely would not have known they had anything. So you might be worrying unnecessarily. Afaik they dont get really I'll but more a bit cranky, not so ill youncouldnt take them to a wedding. But I might be wrong.

I would vaccinate.

On a separate note are you getting support for your anxiety?

Oh, just saw that you have PND/anxiety. Hmm. What would be worse for you? Worrying about DD potentially contracting measles from the guests (unlikely) or worrying about DD having a bit of fever and rash(not dangerous but a bit of a pita)?

Winny - I don't know

Wips - I am getting counselling - just started, thanks.

When ds had the MMR he got a big red circle but nothing else and nothing with the pre school booster at all. I've had measles, mumps and rubella so don't know if that means they may have some immunity from me still. Who knows.

No, I don't think she would have any immunity left at 20mo.

I think I would just go ahead and vaccinate. She's unlikely to get any reaction 2 days later. In any case, worry about measles has to be worse, I think

Thanks, I think I'm leaning that way Winny but dh thinks we should wait.

If you'd feel forever guilty, then you should do the jab.

If you'd feel forever guilty, then you should do the jab.

It's not a given that your DD will be I'll after the jab. How did she react to her previous jabs?

I was worried about my DD reacting to her MMR and she cried for about 10 secs and was fine after that. Not sleepy, no temp, no rashes, nothing. She would have been positively ideal for wedding attendance.

Your DD could be the same.

Before the wedding, because there are a number of measles outbreaks abroad at the moment, most notably in the Ukraine where they are holding the European championships. Depending on whether you have been vaccinated you may want to consider getting yourself vaccinated as well. Measles can be a nasty disease.

Vaccinate.

I've not been vaccinated but I have had all 3 diseases.

Well, at least you should be fine yourself. Still would vaccinate your dd asap though. It is odd how these diseases all seem to be coming back with a vengeance. In part probably because people travel a lot more and in part because vaccination rates and hence herd immunity has dropped a lot in a large number of Western countries.

I would do it before the wedding and go armed with Calpol just in case. My 2 had no side affects after theirs.

Yep I'm just going to do it this week, may as well get it done I think. Just hoping she doesn't decide to be ill that day! She has history!!