Vaccinations - dont want a debate, really dont, just feel so guilty.

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Both my kids are a behind with their vaccination schedule due to various illnesses including swine flu, pneumonia, chickenpox, slapped cheek, ear and chest infections mixed in with the usual tummy bugs and feverish colds.

DD (19m) today had her Hib, MenC and pneumoccoccal vaccinations - I didnt want her to get the MMR at this point because I personally feel its too much. Nurse was not happy with me at all. I understand she can advise but Ive left the surgery feeling like the worst mother in the World.

DD (5) is due ot get his preschool booster this week - he had the initial MMR at 16m. He is late because last year he was almost literally ill all of the time and this year hasnt been too much better tbh.

After being told 'I must promise to get dd done in 4 weeks for MMR' I feel like the worst mother ever, like I am deiberately putting them at risk by not vaccinating. I did point out that even if I did choose not to vaccinate it would be MY choice as their parent.

Please dont flame me or turn this into a vaccinations debate, Im struggling with anxiety anyways and just feel like shit now tbh.

Sounds like your nurse is being daft! Ds was late with all of his vaccines (not old enough for pre school ones yet) and our practise nurse had an "as long as they get done it doesn't matter when" attitude. She even suggested delaying his MMR further to slot his flu jabs in first as that was more important for him.

I empathise! Dd was the same - always too I'll for vac then when she did get them she would have awful reactions. The worst being her Hib men c which was so bad we had to go for singles. She is being on rubella and mumps reason being she hasn't been well enough to complete them yet, it's rotten but I'm not risking another reaction.

Thanks guys, funnily enough Sirzy I prioritised ds's flu jags last year and he had those the only times he was well! He needed 2 because hed never had them before.

I don't think there is any need to feel guilty, you are doing what you can. However, I would your dd have the MMR at the earliest opportunity given that there are various measles outbreaks at the moment.

She's having it in 4 weeks all being well.

Ds had ear infections constantly. He had the 2 month injections on time, 3 month 1 month late. And the 4 months he had at 13 months. MMR was about 15 months.
He had them the first opportunity he wasn't ill or on antibiotics on a Monday. the nurse was completely laid back about it. She knew that I wanted him to have it and she knew I wasn't just being fussy and saying he was a bit sniffly or something.
He had bad reactions to his first injections and I've always wondered if that set him up for his first ear infection.

DS1 was late with his and my nurse was the same, at the time I was not in a good place (remnants of PND) and didn't tell her to piss off (politely!). Ignore her, your doing all you can and at the end of the day its your choice anyway.

Thanks both.

Yes - have remnants of PND too and she made me feel so horrible.