My dd is 11 and worried about this. Advice please.

[drywhiteplease]

My dd is 11 and has occasionally "leaked" a bit which she is getting increasingly embarrassed about. I have always put this down the her just holding on for too long and getting distracted and dh is pretty laid back and says she'll grow out of it. But she's getting upset about it and anxious too.

Do you think I should take her to the Dr therefore drawing more attention to it? Could it be a physical thing?

She is going away for 4 nights soon on her school residential and doing a long 9 mile walk one day and worrying about " lasting" as she is too embarrassed to go outside with all he other kids looking.she really doesn't want me to speak to the teachers.

Help!

Have a look at ERICwww.eric.org.uk/ they maybe able to talk to you about what to do.

Obviously not a long term answer, but does she use pantyliners so she's less worried about leakage showing through?

But yes, to going to the GP who will probably refer her. Am sure you're alert to this, but sometimes people with leakage drink less than they should as they think they won't need to go as much/leak less and that leads to its own problems.

Had spoken to her about panty liners for the walk. But think will speak to Dr too.

Hello,drywhite (hope Dukan is going well....I fell well and truly off the wagon)
I would definitely get a telephone consultation with the Dr and take it from there. But liners for the walk should at least make her feel a bit less worried.

Just a thought on the liners, ordinary panty liners won't give great absorbency, so better to get either always envive or Tina lights. These absorb sudden amounts much quicker and are better at absorbing odours. Both do ones that are individually wrapped as well so she can take then out of the outer wrapper/box, so even if someone else sees them they won't see that they are bladder control products and will assume they are just sanitary towels.

Rather than the GP, my first line of inquiry would be the school nursing team as this Is where your GP will probably refer you as they will run an eneurisis clinic. My 10 yo regularly wets the bed so we know the clinic very well :(

Also, although she doesn't want to talk about her problem with the teachers, would she talk to them about her embarrassment about peeing in the wilds? I'm sure she isn't the only one, and a kind female teacher should be able to find them a discreet place for a wee that is out of sight of the rest of the group.

Thanks for all you advice....gratefully received. They never stop needing you do they? Really feel for her.
mince thanks too....Dukan went v well (sorry) but about to go to pils. And my parents for week which is going to be tricky!

Get her wee checked for a low grade/grumbling infection...drop a sample off at your GP's for the nusre to check.
You can get short term medication for trips, though usully for night time wetting, they may still help - the easiest to use is a 'melt', which is a bit like a 10p sized bit of rice paper or ice cream cone, rather than a pill, but best to get an appt, or at least a telephone chat with GP first.