I bumped my baby's head on the corner of the worktop 3 wks ago...

[Jambajuice]

and it's not ok:(.

She screamed for a couple of minutes but I thought no more of it. She is dd3. She now sports a horrible mark on her forehead about 4mm in diameter, it's bright red and slightly raised. It got gradually worse for the first week and has not improved for the last 2. These dates are rough estimates. As she is dd3 I have tried to tell myself it's fine, will sort itself etc. But I'm now realising it's not going to go. If anything its more raised this week and people are asking me about it, mainly asking if it's birthmark:(. GP says it's a birthmark but I've told her it 100% isn't. She said maybe I've bumped an area that was always going to velop into a birthmark, so a conincidence but I seriously doubt it.

So upset, get reminded every time I look at her. I know lots of people do these clumsy things to their babies but I seem to be the only one I know to cause an unsightly mark on the head. Has anyone experienced anything like this?I am almost wishing the days away. Til her hair grows over it,silly I know! She is 15 weeks btw.

aww bless her. My daughter sports a lovely harry potter style scar in the middle of her forehead thanks to her big brother pushing her. She promptly cut her forehead open on the edge of the radiator. I try to view these imperfections as a sign of my children's uniqueness rather than my inability to keep an eye on them 24/7 hehe. If you aren't satisfied with your GP's advice there is absolutely no reason why you can't request a second opinion from another GP or other health professional. Try not to be so hard on yourself if you feel responsible. Fingers crossed, as she's so little perhaps her body is just taking a little longer to clear up the bump :)

Just thought I should probably add that even if this mark is classified as just a 'birthmark' that it would need to be monitored if it continued to grow in a raised fashion as far as I'm aware. My daughter was born with a 'port-wine' type birthmark in the corner of her mouth which health visitors and gp's regularly measured. I can't tell you the exact reason why this was necessary as it was a long time ago (or feels it), but there was no change and so they stopped checking after a time. If you think this mark is still changing don't feel at all paranoid about asking for as many checks as you like.

Thank you. The gp didn't measure it but we measured it a couple of days ago and will keep track. I am not doing very well. Have been in tears most of the morning, almost a bit depressed at times as dd was perfect before and sometimes I don't want to hold her because I have a constant reminder of what I did.

However, I have kind of got over the guilt. I just feel angry that this is such a horrible mark when other people injure their children and there's no lasting sign. That is very immature of me but just how I feel:(.

Am going to see another gp soon as I really need to know exactly what this thing is, how much worse it's likely to get and if it's really a good idea to treat it with some cream the gp gave me. Might this make it worse if it is a birthmark?! Also I am allergic to the prescribed cream so want to avoid it if possible :(

I hope all goes well with the other GP and it gives you the reassurance you are looking for. If it is a birthmark as far as I'm aware creams will not affect it at all and if you are worried about your little one being sensitive to it mention so to the GP they should give you all the guidance and reassurance you need.

Please don't try to feel too bad if the mark remains. Your dd is still so young what looks like a huge mark now will change and appear to shrink as she grows I'm sure. When mine was born her birthmark looked huge but now you have to ask her to open her mouth to see it as its in the crease of her mouth. I couldn't imagine it would be so small now it was all that was noticeable about her when born! Even so, it's all these little marks, beauty spots, moles and scars that make our children unique, I see it as my job to make sure I love them all and therefore my children will love their differences to. All the best to you and your little one and hope you get a positive outcome :)