My 5 year old DD jumped off the top of the couch 2 Saturdays ago and fractured her elbow. Took her to A&E and they just checked her over, x-rayed her, and sent her home in a sling saying she should be fine and to arrange a follow-up outpatient appointment in 10 days time. Well DH took her to hospital just now for the appointment and now they say she should have been put in a plaster back then when she went into A&E. Because now, her bones have become displaced, and if left untreated it will heal up into an odd shape - kind of like if she tries to straighten her arm it will bend more than most, and it will not be able to flex as fully as a normal person's arm should. In order to try and correct it, they suggest having her go into surgery ASAP (possibly today) to have wires put in her arm to correct its shape. But the surgery carries risks of nerve damage, etc... as well as the risks associated with using anaesthesia on her (she has never had anaesthesia before so this will be very much "trial and error"). I'm really at a loss what to decide now. I'm also annoyed that the doctor who treated her at A&E last did not have the sense to put her in a cast. I'm also thinking whether I should lodge a complaint. But I am probably overreacting... just feeling like crying a bit. DH called me from hospital and said he fainted on the spot when he heard what the doctor said and he feels dead embarassed about it...
Does anyone know more about this, or have experience with this sort of thing with their DC? Do you think I should let her go in for surgery or not? I told DH to have another chat with the doctor about what happens if we do not let her go in for surgery apart from developing a wonky arm. Part of me thinks that I would like to avoid surgery and its risks if the result of doing so is only somewhat cosmetic. I would rather she not go through the risks of surgery if it means she can still pursue sports (she's a very active girl and loves her ballet and swimming) despite having a rather funny shaped arm.. But as the doc did mention the possibility of her not being able to flex her arm as fully as a normal person, I wonder if I should let her go for surgery to correct it instead.
Any help appreciated, lol