Worried mum of 2nd child with bad experience first time round.

[Astonmartinis]

I just want to put this out there - not to scare the living daylights out of anyone - but just to vent really and see if anyone has similar (hope not) experience. My son lost his battle to Neuroblastoma cancer 4 years ago aged 18 months. My new daughter - 5 months - is seemingly well and happy and as we can't get her screened for NB (cancer) I feel like I'll always be worrying if she'll develop it too. It can be familial. V rare though.
Now every lump and bump on her tum or head has got me lying awake thinking and wondering if it's going to show up. I don't know if this feeling will just go away in time or get worse.

Don't have any advice, just didn't want to leave you un-answered.

I am so sorry about your son, and congratulations on the birth of your daughter.

I am not surprised that you are feeling anxious, I think that is entirely natural. I think you are doing a really good job of keeping your fears in perspective, and I genuinely don't think the feeling will get worse. I imagine there will be times/ situations which will be worrying in the future, but that you will learn to relax a little as time goes on.

Thank you for this. I hope you're right.

How about looking into some CBT therapy for yourself? I'm not suggesting you need therapy - please don't be offended - it's just that I have heard very good things about CBT in particular and how it can help to encourage positive thinking instead of negative worries. I have to say that I have never tried it myself (but am considering it actually) but all that I have heard and read about it seems very positive.
HTH

Poptart, I hadn't considered this avenue but like you, have heard it can be effective. Thanks for the reply and advice both of you.
Will dwell on it..
AM