7yr old wetting - No Infection. Possible Aspergers related, possible relationship breakdown (just to cover all bases in title!)

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So, DD1 will be 8 in May. Since about half term she has been wetting herself every day-3 days at school. Rarely outside of school.

She has never been reliably dry at night, but is worse since this started.

There is no urine infection.

It is about 12 months since her dad moved out and I think it has properly sunk in now that he isn't coming back.

She has many aspergers traits, school has been tough this year, but she does finally have a proper friend (her first at school tbh).

HELP!

I will obv be going back to the Dr, but MN is always way better for been there, done that stories.

Can't offer any practical help, only moral support as my DS (7, ASD) is the same.

I take the line that, since it happens when they're asleep, they can't help it. I do have some pretty hefty bed protection, though, which I'll share with you. From mattress up:
Fitted waterproof mattress cover (with towelling upper).
Fitted cotton sheet (white-easily washed on hot wash!)
Washable bed mat (from Boots-about £6. Could also use Pampers bed mats)
Old cot sheet placed across the mattressand tucked in the sides, covering the bed mat.

If DS wets the bed, I encourage him to throw back the duvet asap (if he hasn't 'caught' it, I don't change it each night), then to put his wet PJs on the wet patch so they don't soak anywhere else. That way, at least it's a simple job to gather up the wet stuff (hopefully just PJs, draw sheet and bed mat!) to wash.

DS did go through a patch of weeing when he was awake and reading in the mornings (realised when I'd gone in and he was dry and awake, then he was wet 10 mins later!). I said he had to get his own washing to the washing machine when he did that, and he soon stopped.

Hope your DD soon stops, but IMO, it's not worth getting het up about, and drugs/alarm bells will only make it worse if the problem is anxiety related, as you seem to be suggesting.

Thank you - the night bit isn't bothering me too much, she is happy enough to wear pull ups etc. It is the day that is bothering me the most.

She annoucned today (she gives many reasons for it), that it is because she is scared she will be in the toilet by herself when a fire alarm goes off. She has always been quite freaked out by fire alarms, so that is possible. I don't know how to fix it though - I don't think school will let her take a mate to the loo each time she needs to go, and I am not sure what the TA set up is in her class. I will go in and talk to the parent support woman I think. I have known her for years, so it is easy enough.