childs size

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Hi does anyone have a child who is oversized? I have a 2.6 child who was born at 11lb 2! and has continued growing at a major rate. He is currently shy of weighing 4 stone and is wearing 6-7 years clothes. I have spoken to my health professionals who say it isn't a problem as they say he is all in proportion and no need to worry. I do worry about it as he gets alot of trouble from other parents and his preschool as they expect him to behave like an older child! Also worth mentioning is that he is incredibly strong... How can this be normal?

Challenge - I don't have experience of this but like you cannot understand how they can think this can be normal.

I take it your son is just a normal 2 ear old otherwise?

Enjoy it. It's a lot more stressful when they go the other way!

Seriously, they'd be pretty quick to tell you if he's obese. I teach primary and you see how they all grow at different rates, I bet by yr 6 many others will catch him up and he won't stand out much at all.

I know how hard it is, I myself have caught myself teaching bigger/ taller kids and expecting them to be more mature. I have to stop myself and think sometimes. Maybe gentley remind preschool his maturity is the same as his peers (or even a little behind if it is!) and ask them to keep it in mind. Be friendly, joke a little but get your point across. If it persists write a letter about your concerns and what you expect to happen in the future with clear bullet point e.g.

-sanctions for behaviour are age appropriate and same as peers
-if doing group activities he remains with peers
-his boundaries are the same as peers (also citing any special needs if any)
-to see you promptly with any behaviour concerns so you can address them in partnership

I have taught a girl who as 5ft 8 in year 3 and a boy who was 9 stone and 5ft 6 in year 2. They stood out then but are normal teens, on the tall end of normal. You can no longer see their heads in a crowd!

I have had to take him to get assessed by different organisations due to the flack the poor boy was getting, as the preschool were going to remove him from the setting as they said they couldn't deal with his behaviour.

I was truely horrified when i found out it was due to him resonding to another child who was biting/hiting him etc, so when he lashed out the other child was hurt!

Preschool stated it was alright if child 1 hit or pushed my child but where he is so big when he pushed out child 1 would get hurt more, which i took very personal indeed.

To keep my child in preschool i have had to involve health visitors who visited the setting every week for 4 weeks and there conclusion was he was displaying normal behaviour for his age, but also commented on his size! I've also got him refered to a speech therapist but we've not seen them yet due to waiting list and also had to be refered to EYSENIT just so they can assess him further to make sure there is no underlying issues....

other than this what else can i do? i can't sit here and say he is a saint but overall at home and out he is the most loving and caring child