DS in hospital following haemorrhage

[purplearmadillo]

DS had a post-operative haemorrhage yesterday after having his tonsils and adenoids out on Tuesday. He was re-operated on yesterday evening but his post-op observations show his heart rate is still really high.

I am scared. Does anyone have experience of this with a good outcome. I dont want any bad stories as I have already googled (stupid I know). I am frightened of taking him home and him bleeding again and bleeding to death before we get him back to hospital. He is almost 3.

Thanks everyone.

Feel I should defend DH a bit but I guess the truth is he doesn't really understand for some reason. He thinks I am being emotional about it. He didn't see the bleed when it happened which I think means he doesn't understand how scary it was for me and DS and he is paranoid about setting bad precedents re sleeping and also re his eating. However he has suggested we kind of talk though all that happened so he can understand and I can feel better. I still feel a bit in shock over the whole thing.

Last night we got through with the monitor which I felt ok with because we were up giving him pain meds every hour. However he just has a lunchtime sleep with me in my bed and I think I will revisit tonight. DS seems ok today, no more bleeding at all but he's in lots of pain despite all the painkillers.

That should be every two hours. Am not
overdosing him!

Is your dh usually so detached? How can you be too emotional about this? Your ds is only 3!

Really wouldn't worry about setting bad precedents with sleeping. Mine still come into bed with us when they're ill (and they're 8 and 11!) but the rest of teh time are qute happy to sleep in their own beds.
Hope he's ok.

yy to talking it through with dh, but stand firm - you really can't let ds sleep alone.

Of course you're setting precedents - the precedent is that when you're ill, mummy and daddy take extra special care of you.

This happened to my friends little boy when he was 3.

Friend, despite being a nurse, said it was really scary seeing the amount of blood he lost.She was also worried about a second bleed after he came home.

After the first bleed he was readmitted, treated and all was fine.

I think for a little while he apparently talked about it every now and again (as if he was processing in his head what had happened IYSWIM) and was a little wary of eating rough/hard foods but the passed.

Hope he gets well soon

Nothing wrong with having different rules for when they are poorly.

Hope he is better soon xx

My friends DS also had this. She rushed him back to the hospital where he got worse on arrival and had further surgery. Mum was terrified. However, they treated him well and he made a full recovery (was about 5 years ago I thnk).

purple, dd2 was in loads of pain for over a week after her op...barely ate, wouldn't drink milk, cried in her sleep..it was a rough time, very intense, and quite exhausting, but we got through it by staying on top of pain meds and lots of CBeebies and cuddles, and ice lollies to keep her hydrated.

Just wanted to let you know it can be very normal to have that level of pain after tonsil op xxx

Thanks everyone.

Haven't talked to DH yet, as we were both shattered last night, but will do today.

DS seems lots and lots better today, the pain meds are fully keeping the pain in control and he's eating much better, so fingers crossed we have turned a corner.

Elibean, I know what you mean though, it is completely exhausting, dealing with the meds, the pain, the worry.... much harder than I expected it would be, even without the added complication of further surgery.

Oh good! I'm glad he's on the mend now

I think dd's pain was more extreme, and went on longer, because of the laryngeal surgery on top of the normal stuff - glad your ds eating again, thats good. Just one word in case - its quite normal for pain levels to get higher again after a few days, for a couple of days, as the scabs come off the wounds. Don't worry if that happens, just keep going with the pain meds!