My DD mental health and counselling.

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Hi

Happy Thursday. I am a newbie so am still finding my way around, am liking the website.

Is anyone else out there concerned about thier childs mental health? I feel quite alone and really cant think about what to do, my DD has just hit double figures. We have been through a rough time,for which my daughter finally got some counselling but is was only for 6weeks.she also has anohter health problem,agian we have had some help for. the biggest thing is trying to break down the wall my daughter has built up, its so hard to get through, in the past year i have tried to get her counselling with the the person she had before, but they are just not interested.I have left it for a while because she goes through phases, but this seems to be getting worse now. when we used to visit the hospital for her other health problem, i used to sit there and listen to the doctor telling me its my parenting! I stopped going as my dd wasnt really getting help, went to my GP and she said with respect it is your parenting! how can I get through to my DD who is still to young to understand? the problem I have with my parenting is I cant break down this wall she has built up. one professional says she could be depressed, I have no interaction with social workers, who were useless when we really needed them anyway.
Its so frustrating and I end up getting angry too!
She has always been difficult but the upheaval we went through made it worse, 4 years now. I am now having to find out about alternative couselling sessions for her just pay privately....

or if anyone has other ideas?

thanks

Going through similiar with my dd who is 14.

Could school do a CAF report? Or a referral to CAMHS

Thank you, I will ask the school. CAMhs made things worse for us, they were not helping at all.

www.youngminds.org.uk has a helpline for parents and will be able to advise you.

Ok thank you.Will check it out :)

I have had mental health problems for as long as I can remember. I can remember being your daughter's age and I remember feeling similar to how she might now. The problem I had when I was 10 years old, I didn't have the ability to cope with how I felt, I didn't understand why I felt like I did. I withdrew inwards too.

If you wish to go private, are there any family counselling groups in your area that you and DD could go to? Maybe for example for a couple of sessions you and the counsellor could discuss it is OK to have lots of different feelings, so that your DD feels safe and secure talking to the counsellor and eventually they could have short one to one sessions where she feels she can express herself?

Please do not blame yourself for your parenting or any other bullshit your idiot GP has told you. I cannot believe that you are trying to do the best for your DD and your ridiculous GP is telling you it's your fault! Your GP sounds like an uncaring nob. Are there other GPs you can see at your surgery? If not I would move DD elsewhere to another GP, who will hopefully have half a brain, listen to you and arrange some appropriate strategy for your DD. It's the least you both deserve.

Hope both you and DD are ok :)