Words of support needed - I feel like a useless wreck

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DS 10months 10 days ago came down with chest infection (he has 6 teeth and looks like the pointy ones are coming) Dr gave Amoxycillan.

Drooling enough to soak vests tops and pants within minutes. He has the biggest ulcer I have ever seen on his bottom lip which now look like its healing allbeit slowly.

He also has oral thrush so is on Nystatin - 5 days into course.

His mouth is sore and he doesn;t want to eat as swallowing hurts. Gone off his milk alot too. Hence no poo for 4 days.... gave lactulose and he has been twice now.

To top it all he is waking around 15 times in the night with trapped wind. This also coincided with onset of being unwell. Myself and hubby are wrecked but hubby thinks I am losing plot cos I am crying all the time. I hurt when I see my baby in pain. I have had him back docs 4 times.... with various problems I have mentioned.

I feel like I am being mean holding his head to give him meds. Feel like everything I do doesnt help my baby. I cuddle him and soothe him but he is really going through it and it's horrible.

How can I be stronger? Feel like I can't cope. My hubby tells me I shouldnt be crying and I have to get on with it. I know he is right but I need some words of wisdom and someone to tell me he will get well soon.

I miss my smiley little boy.

Sorry for rambling post. Thanks for reading.

If you're worried about him then take him back to the doctor - even if there is nothing more to be done you can have your mind put at rest. It hurts like hell to see your child in pain and I hated having to hold my dcs heads to get meds down them but you're doing it for their own good.

I'm sorry I can't offer any more practical advice but keep going - you'll get your smiley baby back soon and have a ((hug)).

oh gosh, pooor you!! not surprised you are crying! you'll get through it...
is it definitely trapped wind waking him? my son got into a habit of waking frequently but it was just that, a habit, which we had to try to wean him off - the crying might make him swallow too much air though i guess.
the anti biotics should work quickly and he'll be on the mend - in the meantime don't worry that you are crying, it lets out your stress rather than swallowing it and feeling more tense. just try to ride the storm. good luck to you.

On a practical level are you giving him regular pain relief? Calpol, ibuprofen alternate them if you like but get the maximum amount of both down him as he is so uncomfortable poor love. If he is reluctant to take pain relief you can get paracetamol suppositories from the chemist (expensive) or ask GP for a prescription. The are brilliant for getting on top of pain when the mouth is sore.

Thanks for your replies everyone. Riding the storm - I couldn't have put it better myself Stinkypants.

Yeah using calpol and ibuprofen weakandmilky.

Had some progress today as he shocked myself and hubby and my parents and made a liar out of us by picking up a chocolate eclair and scoffing the lot! He wouldn't entertain solids all week - hence the trapped wind I think.
So I gave him some solids for tea.... after some live yoghurt to help with the thrush and after an initial cry cos of the pain swallowing he ate some of it.

Last night was horrendous and I was up in the night around 20 times :(

Back to work tomorrow.... so hoping for a bit more sleep. Hubby is off so he is doing the majority of pacing the floor with him.

once again thanks xxxx

oh yeah and thanks for the hug... gilbonzo....duck! xxx

Bless your heart! I and I'm sure all of us have been there at some point. I feel incredibly stressed when my kids are ill, sometimes men don't get it. My dp is very practical and rational. I am the opposite, so thank god we have him.

Sounds like your poor ds is going through it. Keep up with the meds and repeat the mantra 'We will get through this!'

Try some gripe water for the wind... My dd 17 months can still get trapped wind at night (she was a real colicy baby in the extreme!) and this does help.

Can only offer suggestion of giving meds in a syringe. Much more straightforward with our two.

I 2nd gripe water, worked a treat when my DS was little. Also what about very ditute and luke warm fennal tea??

I know this is frowned upon, but some people have success giving meds in a small amount of strong Ribena (I remember DS1 looking shocked and amazed when they gave it him at 6mo to sedate him before a CAT scan). Think he was wondering what I'd been hiding from him.

Just read this, going through the same myself with my ds also 10 months. It's heartbreaking isn't it?
How is your little man now?