Opinions needed. Would you leave your 3 year old with Grandparents overnight if she/he was unwell with Tonsillitis?

[JenAT]

A bit of background. We were meant to be away overnight tonight going to a 10 year University reunion. Tickets paid for upfront.

Dd has tonsillitis, high temp, not well, lying on sofa won't eat.(I know it's tonsillitis and nothing more serious as I've diagnosed it myself as I'm a Dr)

She was going to stay overnight with her Grandparents who she adores. She has told me she still wants to go.

She is never ill, so seeing her all listless is horrible. Realistically she is not going to have a miraculous recovery over the next few hours. I know Grandparents would be fine with having her and she would be fine with them. But I probably wouldn't really enjoy the evening and would feel horrible if she woke in the night and wanted me and I wasn't there.

I have been looking forward to the reunion for ages. Would I be a mean Mummy to go, what would you lot do in my shoes?

Tough one - I don't think you would be mean to go, but I wouldn't, personally. Bummer, though.

Can you go for a bit and come back tonight? Or is it too far?

I would worry about leaving her overnight tbh.

No. She'll want her mummy.

Ooh, difficult...

But I think I would have to stay. I'd just feel too guilty, in the end. Tbh, not so much for dd (who, as you know, will be fine) but for giving my parents the responsibility of looking after my poorly child

Sorry for your dilemma. They always leave illness for the REALLY important events, don't they?!

Thanks everyone. Too far to go for a few hours,unfortunately.

I think you are all right about not going and I probably wouldn't enjoy myself either worrying about her. She still desperately wants to go to Grandma's but it may be a different kettle of fish in the middle of the night!

That's it - night time is always the worst!

Sorry your plans are mucked up. Maybe one of you could still go? Or take a friend?

I couldn't go. Because if dd woke and wanted me, I'd feel awful. She could still go to Grandma's assuming you're nearby? So you can be called on in the night?

If she thinks it's a treat (my dd would) and she ends up not doing it, it may feel a little like she's being penalised for being poorly. Or you could all go for a sleepover at Grandma's? I assume Grandma is in rude health?

It depends on Grandma, I think. I would leave mine, because I know he'd get looked after really well.

Grandparents both very fit and well, yes.

Reunion in Liverpool, we live in Worcestershire so not near.

DH just announced he thinks he is coming down with something. Probably man-flu though.

I think its easier all round not to go. I wouldn't be drinking anyway as pregnant and I was never sober at any past Medical School events, so would probably just sit in the corner feeling guilty and miserable!!

Looks like you are not going to the Ball! Personally if your parents are fit well and sensible, and have clear instructions re anti pyretics, pain relief fluids etc, I would have gone. They could have texted hourly and kept your mind at rest, but sick DH has scuppered that now . Never mind it will all be posted on Facebook.

I just had tonsillitis and it was horrific. i haven't felt so unwell in years. Would definitely not leave a child who had it. Bugger about the timing though!