Can anyone recommend a good book for three year olds about death and what happens next? Don't mind if it's religious.

[indiechick]

Total atheist myself but dd seems to find idea of heaven comforting so happy to go along with that for now. I know it may sounds very young, but she's really smart and advanced emotionally and seems to understand that people die and that we're all going to die and is quite upset at the prospect. Although now asking questions about heaven I really can't answer like, do they have sofas? Are the teachers there? Will we be sleeping on flowers?

Goodbye Mog is meant to be a good one.

Also maybe Michael Rosen's Sad Book.

I know my best friend got lots of books from her Macmillan nurses to prepare her young daughter about death. Seemed to help hugely as her daughter has adjusted so well. Maybe try their website! other than that another good person was the vicar/priest/guy person that did a service last week at another poor mum's funeral was amazing with the young children. Non religious sermon about beetles going up a lily stem but can't come back down as they are now dragonflies! Kids seemed to get it
But there are people out there who will give you some more advice. Hope it helps a bit.

Thanks will try macmillan nurses and the other two. Never though she'd think about it so early, but she's been distraught this afternoon.

Badgers parting gifts is a good one.

Badgers parting gifts

If you scroll down there is a list of other books about death/saying goodbye. The waterbugs and dragonflies one is there too.

Goodbye mog is incredibly sad and I am afraid I cannot read any of those books. It is good for littlwe children though/

Do you know why she's so intense and upset about this atm, indiechick?

I second Badgers Parting gifts and recommend Frog and the Birdsong by Max Velthuisj

Frog and the Birdsong

I like No matter what by Debbie Gliori for that age. And this is a great website Winston's Wish

Winstons wish are a very good organisation. I never knew about mog dying!!!!

I wouldn't be able to read that to ds as I would be in floods myself!

Wendyweber, I think it's 'cos it's been mentioned a lot recently. Her friend's cat died which was talked about at the weekend, then we started to watch Shrek 3 this afternoon and the frog king died (bloody u certificate - didn't mention dead frog king did they?) and she got all upset, also my nana is quite ill and it's a worry. Think I need to get some books and go through it with her. She's good with books, likes things explained that way.

Ah, OK - these things do have a tendency to fall on top of each other, don't they? What she probably really needs, but can't articulate, is reassurance that you and she and anybody else who matters to her will probably still be here for years and years and years. Try to work that into a conversation ASAP. (I hope your nana will also be around for a while yet )

(Don't ever let her watch Ring of Bright Water which is also a U - the otter film - one of them comes to a horrible end in that , we had no idea and our DDs watched it alone aged about 7 & 4 and were devastated.)

(Honey I Shrunk the Kids was another - there was an ant or something, which defended the shrunken kids against some predator or other, and died - I remember DS1 being devastated by that when he was quite little. The people who dole out these certificates don't seem to have much empathy with small children )

I watched Bambi the other day and the mother dies, it was heartbreaking. Mind you some of the fairy tales have a lot of wicked witches dying as well. She'll have to accept it I guess, she was so upset, it really broke my heart.