Anyone else a bit lonely but cba with a relationship?

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Anyone else feel like this? Exh left me almost 18 months ago. I can't be arsed to get on the apps and do small talk, (or get fucked over by a man again) but the loneliness is really starting to creep in - first time I've lived alone.

I have a great bunch of friends, active social life, work keeps me really busy. Just can't shake it off some evenings.

Anyone else?

Slightly different from you, I've been single since 2017 and been so busy that it hasn't really mattered. However DS will head off to university in 18 months and suddenly things will be very quiet.

I signed up for a dating app before Easter as a sort of toe in the water. I got some interest but then asked myself if I actually wanted to go out after work, in the dark and cold to somewhere I don't know, to meet a random man and make small talk, and the answer was no.

So I'm going to think again in the summer. Maybe I'll be more motivated.

It all seems much harder work now. In the past, I'd just spend a few nights in my local pub or at a class and meet someone.

You'll get the I love being alone crowd along I'm sure but it's not great.

I've been single and lived by myself for a long time. I was desperately lonely and made lots of mistakes. I got very needy and even tolerated abuse because I didn't want to be alone.

Although I like living alone, people don't appreciate what they've got when they go home to people and have support.

I'm currently unwell and I was up at five this morning on the phone to the OOH Dr worried I wouldn't be able to let in the ambulance crew. I would love someone to make me a cup of tea or even cook but I have to drag myself into the kitchen.

It's nice to share life with someone. I've been to over 40 countries alone. I'm sure that sounds fabulous to some but I bet they're not scampering to find a one bedroom flat.

Yep like in a constant state of conflict

want to spend time with someone but then enjoy doing my thing in peace

want to meet someone but tired of the bullshit and cba with the dating games

I just don’t think I can be bothered to put the effort into it. Maybe I’ll just enjoy being selfish for a bit and not having to consider someone else

im not desperately lonely but I do have my moments where I think I wish I had someone to share x y or z with

This is exactly it! You've articulated it much better than me.

I'm sorry @Asthma927, how are you feeling now?

On the whole I like living alone but not all the time. And the thought of being ill and alone is scary. The worst I've had so far is a bout of tonsillitis.

I'm ok thanks. I have several health issues so it's a bit of a nightmare.

Living alone is brilliant in comparison to a houseshare. It's nice to have your own space.

However if you're alone and I'll, it's crap. I've had COVID and had to drag myself around to eat. Another time I slipped a disc and couldn't move and had no one to help.

It's expensive and I have no one to share the burden with. I have cooked for myself for the past 20 years, had no one to get me a tea or come with me to the hospital.

it would be nice to share my life with someone. People moan because they're in shitty relationships but don't want to be alone. I'd rather be alone, with how crap that can be, than be in a shitty relationship.

I wrote the post then re-read the title and realised I don’t properly meet your criteria: I’m not a bit lonely. I am lonely.

I meet the second criteria of CBA.

I have posted to flumax the ‘be positive, and get out and meet people.’

I am making an effort to first make friends through work and outside activities have resulted zero friendship or relationships. Consequently it takes ALL my resilience to not take it personally. It’s simple circumstance. Resulting in now CBA. 🧐