Sorry it’s a long one. I’ve been in a long term relationship for 14 years. We haven’t managed to have children as there was too much focus on getting house renovated first, etc. But so many other things have happened that I like ‘I can’t get pregnant now, we’re too stressed, family issues (on both sides), etc. And I was always waiting for him to be ready. At the beginning we talked about kids, we both wanted that. For me who used to be a nanny, there would be no question about it. But years passed by, difficult conversations were being avoided and now I’m in a tricky situation. I’m 43, most likely in perimenopause, and, what now is getting clearer, in a relationship with a narcissist. It’s not healthy, and I’m ready to walk away. Unfortunately, I haven’t done the right thing and froze my eggs in the past, when I knew things were not right. Always waiting for him to be ready for that life changing decision. We have so much in common, we’re good when we’re good, yet it really feels the love is just one sided and he’s more concerned about him and not caring about my needs and concerns. I’m just a housemate and free labour. For last couple of months I was trying to bring this up, that I’m worried it’s never gonna happen for me, yet I was shut down. Every pregnancy announcement is heartbreaking, even when I’m happy for them. But feels like he’s laughing at me in the background when I’m down about it.
So my question is - have any of you got pregnant during perimenopause, or have you started your pregnancy journey single and in your 40s?