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KimberleyClark · 2024-11-03T16:43:38+00:00

Of the number of threads being started in AIBU lately which seem designed to pit parents and the childfree against each other? It’s very striking how many there have been recently.

IAmGoldenGuineaReturnedToMN · 02/12/2024 01:06

theprincessthepea · 02/12/2024 01:02

I know childfree people hate this - but when I joined mumsnet, I joined expecting it to be a safe space for parents at the very least.

I have seen posts that are anti many things - from racism, to homophobia to sexism. And yes, mean to childfree people and mean to breast feeders and mean to animal lovers - the list goes on. But I just wouldn’t expect a platform that was originated to be a help for parents to be so anti.

It’s like joining an LGBTQ+ forum that is hijacked by people that hate you. Why should this forum be horrible to those of us that have chosen to have children? We already get a hard time in the real world.

I personally don’t care if someone has chosen to or not to have children - it’s their choice and I find it sad that childfree people also get abuse. But if you are going to be so cruel about your hate for people with children - don’t bring that energy to mumsnet.

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Exactly. You've put it very well.

Catsmere · 02/12/2024 01:11

@theprincessthepea It's ONE forum among so many. We're not hijacking the entire site. Why bother reading the threads here when you're obviously not the target audience?

ScottieEvans · 02/12/2024 01:35

theprincessthepea · 02/12/2024 01:02

I know childfree people hate this - but when I joined mumsnet, I joined expecting it to be a safe space for parents at the very least.

I have seen posts that are anti many things - from racism, to homophobia to sexism. And yes, mean to childfree people and mean to breast feeders and mean to animal lovers - the list goes on. But I just wouldn’t expect a platform that was originated to be a help for parents to be so anti.

It’s like joining an LGBTQ+ forum that is hijacked by people that hate you. Why should this forum be horrible to those of us that have chosen to have children? We already get a hard time in the real world.

I personally don’t care if someone has chosen to or not to have children - it’s their choice and I find it sad that childfree people also get abuse. But if you are going to be so cruel about your hate for people with children - don’t bring that energy to mumsnet.

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I don't know why people who don't or can't have children using the same forum as you is so upsetting. I haven't seen anyone specifically saying I'm childfree and then being 'so cruel' about their 'hate for people with children'. What has MN said when you've reported those posts?

EmpressaurusDelleGatte · 02/12/2024 06:24

It’s like joining an LGBTQ+ forum that is hijacked by people that hate you.

LGBTQ+? Ick.

Pretty much everything that calls itself LGBTQ+ hates the L so I don’t think that’s an especially good analogy.

You can hide the childfree board in Settings, though.

Daleksatemyshed · 02/12/2024 09:43

@theprincessthepea the childfree board isn't here to denigrate parents, it's here for people with something in common to chat and discuss how awkward it can be not being parents in a child centred world. Just because we chose not to be parents doesn't mean we hate you. If you read this thread properly you'd see many posters wanted DC and weren't lucky enough to have them

fitzwilliamdarcy · 02/12/2024 17:06

but when I joined mumsnet, I joined expecting it to be a safe space for parents at the very least.

Why is this energy always directed at us lot and not the many, many, MANY parents posting all over the forums being absolutely vile to one another?

We're always asking for examples of child/mum-hating on this board and nobody can ever come up with any, but if you gave me five minutes on AIBU, I guarantee I could find you at least 15 posts where a parent is being nasty about a SAHM, a single mother, a child with a disability or a 'lazy parent'.

Safe space, indeed...

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KimberleyClark · 02/12/2024 22:16

fitzwilliamdarcy · 02/12/2024 17:06

but when I joined mumsnet, I joined expecting it to be a safe space for parents at the very least.

Why is this energy always directed at us lot and not the many, many, MANY parents posting all over the forums being absolutely vile to one another?

We're always asking for examples of child/mum-hating on this board and nobody can ever come up with any, but if you gave me five minutes on AIBU, I guarantee I could find you at least 15 posts where a parent is being nasty about a SAHM, a single mother, a child with a disability or a 'lazy parent'.

Safe space, indeed...

This. Parents are way nastier to each other on here than childless/free people are to parents.

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Catsmere · 03/12/2024 00:10

Apparently not wanting children (or even worse, not enjoying their company) and daring to say so is BLASPHEMY * and an attack on parents.

(*) yes, I thought that in John Cleese's voice

Balancedcitizen101 · 28/12/2024 15:57

Blood boiling posts. I have no kids and 1 pet and I'm actually really excellent at that exact combination. Some of these AIBUs seem to just be fascist leanings of some modern, clueless people.

IJWMM · 30/12/2024 05:38

theprincessthepea · 02/12/2024 01:02

I know childfree people hate this - but when I joined mumsnet, I joined expecting it to be a safe space for parents at the very least.

I have seen posts that are anti many things - from racism, to homophobia to sexism. And yes, mean to childfree people and mean to breast feeders and mean to animal lovers - the list goes on. But I just wouldn’t expect a platform that was originated to be a help for parents to be so anti.

It’s like joining an LGBTQ+ forum that is hijacked by people that hate you. Why should this forum be horrible to those of us that have chosen to have children? We already get a hard time in the real world.

I personally don’t care if someone has chosen to or not to have children - it’s their choice and I find it sad that childfree people also get abuse. But if you are going to be so cruel about your hate for people with children - don’t bring that energy to mumsnet.

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Erm, why on earth are you bothering to seek out the child free board and post this? How on earth does the CF board impact on your use of the site as a whole? Surely you can just ignore this little corner.

Do you have pets? If not, do you find the Dog House or Litter Tray problematic?

Cruel and hate energy re children is pure hyperbole. But I’m sure you know that. Maybe just avoid this board if the content upsets you so much.