Dh and I married at 22. We have always been open to the idea of babies so much so that even at university when we were using condoms, DH promised me that if I did get pregnant (we met in final year and it was my first sexual relationship), we would marry and keep the baby. We married at 22 anyway, partially because we wanted to but also because we are an international couple and it was easier for us to stay in the same country. As soon as we married we used the withdrawal method and we said that if we had the baby we would definitely keep the baby and be happy. Dh is atheist BTW and we are definitely pro choice so it doesn't have to do with religion (though we are both from traditional religious backgrounds and I currently belong to a liberal denomination).
We used withdrawal method from 2015 (I was 22) to August 2023. Rhythm method from Feb to August 2023 (no condoms). Officially TTC from August 2023 to now. Nothing. Went to nhs to investigate fertility, not much found from the tests.. We discuss this and we agreed that we would go through one round of ivf maximum if needed .
I have done some research and apparently many couples need multiple cycles to get pregnant. But I am not willing to put myself through that, I think for me I just want to say I tried and move on if I can't.. in a sense I am mentally preparing myself for a future without children; previously I was obsessed wirh moving onto a bigger flat now I am far less bothered as our tiny 2 bed is optimal for us and taking on that kind of extra debt in London is life changing.
What do you all think, esp those of you who have been through ivf.