If you *havent* chosen to have children. Come hither

[ShalommJackie]

I'm a 32 year old with stage 4 cancer who absolutely 100% didn't choose to not have children.

I feel like we've got to the point where dh and I have come to terms with not having children. I'm on a medication that is and will keep my cancer at bay but because of that medication I can't have children.

I either stop taking the medication and take a risk of passing on my cancer (Melanoma) on to the baby because it's one of the only cancers that does that or I continue taking it, have a long life in remission and not have children.

I think I choose not to have children. Anyone else in the same boat?

I'm confused. If you have chosen not. to have children because of x y z that being genetics etc
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Medical conditions stopped me from having them.
I wish i could of

I chose not to have a child because of my medical condition. I couldn't face the thought of passing it on to them. Loads of people with my condition have children, but for me, I hate it so much I just couldn't risk it.

I was married 10 years ago and it never happened and it was only because I felt pressured. I was young and not sure of what I wanted. Following my divorce and I when turned 33 I found out I had cancer which I then found out was a result of a genetic mutation that no one in my family knew about. Now two years on I am so so pleased I didn't have children and it cemented in my brain this is the right choice for me. Cant really explain it, its almost like on some level it wasnt ever supposed to happen for me and I almost feel more free knowing this.

Being autistic is one of the many reasons I won't have children. Life is extremely hard; most of the time I am suffering fairly intensely and nobody can really tell except my partner. I couldn't bear to create another living being who might experience the world like me.