How is everyone today?

[Ferretaria]

Mumsnetters without children

It's been some years since my infertility journey came to its end, and today doesn't hurt me like it used to.

Sending love to those of us who find today a trial. ❤

Love from me too. My infertility journey came to an end 20 years ago and I am at peace with my childlessness. But my heart goes out to those who are not.

I'm childfree by choice (and my mother died many years ago) so today has minimal impact on me other than being fed up of the 3 million emails trying to sell me things for Mothers Day. I wish some people would have a little sensitivity to others and realise that not everyone has a mother who is alive (I lost mine to cancer when I was early 20s) or may have a mother who they are NC with and stop trying to ram Mothers Day in our faces.

Hugs to all who are finding it difficult.

And a hope that the smug mummies who so often derail threads on here show a bit of compassion and stay away.

Sending love to those who find or have found mother's day difficult. I'm very low contact with my mother and have found mother's day difficult with feelings of guilt for not celebrating my mother. Now the day passes without a shred of guilt

Lots better than last year. Kind of on the way from childless to childfree and feeling increasingly ok about it.

Thanks for starting this thread. ❤️ to all.

Also, I’m rewatching West Wing which has at least three great female actresses who do not have children - Stockard Channing, Alison Janney and Lily Tomlin.

I've just cried, reading a particular book and realising just how hard, heavy and difficult life has been for me because of being brought up by a narcissistic mother!

Well I had a nice pub lunch with DB. I was thinking this morning do I miss (loved but hot damn could she be difficult) DM who died in 2008? and the answer was no. So must have made peace with all The Stuff. Or mostly, anyway.

Love and peace to all of you, whatever your journey.

Thank you and to you.

My day is okay as the usual in-laws' mothers-fest hasn't happened this year so I haven't had to spend the day pretending to worship the fertile ones and having also lost my own mother, my (lovely but...) MIL is no substitute.

Hurting like a stuck pig. I’m both barren and motherless (mum was abusive, am NC). Days like today make me feel like I’ve failed the two most important tests that exist, and that consequently there’s no point to my being here.

I can only speak for myself but I'm very glad you're here - your comments always have me nodding in agreement. And as for failing important tests - this is going to sound awfully trite, but they're only important if you let them be. I failed the motherhood test and there were times when I wasn't that stellar at the good daughter bit, but there we are and here we are.

I walked into Waitrose after lunch and they're already dismantling the cards and the flowers and moving onto the next thing, which is Easter. It's just a day.

Neither of those things make you less of a person. Please be kind to yourself, especially today. Xx

Stepson arrived with his wife, plus a beautiful bunch of flowers and a cake. I don't think he knew it was Mothering Sunday, but very nice anyway. No acknowledgement in thirty years by either of DH's children and I am not sure this was one, but we take positives where we can!

I'm OK ta. Haven't heard from stepdaughters but not surprised.
Miss mum who died 5yrs ago but knowing my dad is OK helps me.
It's just another Sunday really!

Delighted, child free by choose, happy to not be part of the commercial nonsense.

Choice even 😂😂

Sorry for those who had a shit day. My pain was limited to a couple of hours of in-law family gathering. Four under 10, and one of those occasions where everyone sat around smiling indulgently at Fun Uncle. I’m sure after we left there would have been comments about what a shame it is he never got to have kids of his own because he would have been such an amazing dad.

Felt a bit rubbish. A tricky day for various reasons. Glad it's over now. Having an early night, so it's over sooner.
Done and dusted for another year.
I really wished we placed more emphasis on International Womens Day in this country than Mothers Day. They do it that way in other countries. It's all a bit archaic.
Sending love to others here ❤️

I definitely agree more emphasis should be put on IWD. Social Media is a nightmare today. My own mum has been dead a few years and I hate the feeling of being “less than” on Mother’s Day.

thankfully it’s over 🙂

💐for everyone who didn't get any.

I've always been a bit baffled with the idea that the only point to our lives is to create other lives. Rather than to make the most of our own particular shift on earth and to hopefully have fun doing it.
You are failing at NOTHING. I hope the other thread you're on that that cunty poster started is nothing to do with how you're feeling. That is a nasty post, by a nasty person who I'm guessing is desperate for some sort of validation.

I gave my mum her card & present last weekend, and called her today/yesterday now I guess, but actually spent the day on my own hiding from it all really. After a previous year where I took my mum out for lunch and the nice waitress asked if I was a mum too because they were giving a discount, and it was just after (I think) my 4th MC, so I had to say no, I’m still not ready to put myself in that position again.

I'm so sorry that happened to you 😔