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"it would be ok for homeless single people"

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JenniferBooth · 26/02/2024 22:00

After seeing that comment i didnt read any further. Communal bathrooms with no locks arent ok for anyone. But yet again its the childless/child free who get "oh its ok for them"

https://www.mylondon.news/news/south-london-news/forgotten-mums-trapped-disgusting-housing-28658760

'Forgotten' mums stuck in housing where bathrooms don't have locks

Residents at Carnie Lodge in Balham say the block is unsuitable for children to live in

https://www.mylondon.news/news/south-london-news/forgotten-mums-trapped-disgusting-housing-28658760

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musixa · 27/02/2024 17:22

Even worse - looking at the article, that's the journalist's interpretation and not what the residents quoted actually said.

The only quote anywhere near this is: 'The kitchen is not big enough. That's just not really what a modern child should be living in. It's just for a single [person] - just me, that's fine" which is specifically about the size of the kitchen and possibly reasonable if you consider that people with babies have paraphernalia such as bottle sterilisers, things to puree food etc.

The journalist's comment implies that it's fine for homeless single people to put up with all the stuff going on in those flats such as the drug users in communal areas. Shows how they view the single person, in a nutshell - probably one step away from injecting heroin themselves 🙄

oldpawn · 27/02/2024 17:28

By 'single', I think they mean individual people, not people are not in a relationship.

musixa · 27/02/2024 17:53

oldpawn · 27/02/2024 17:28

By 'single', I think they mean individual people, not people are not in a relationship.

I don't really get the distinction you're drawing, possibly me being dim.

DontCallMeKidDontCallMeBaby · 27/02/2024 20:21

musixa · 27/02/2024 17:53

I don't really get the distinction you're drawing, possibly me being dim.

The lady quoted said “it would be fine for just me” (regarding the tiny kitchenette, NOT the unsafe toilets). So in that context I think she means it’s unsuitable as soon as you add second person. In her case it’s a child, but it was also be true if the person was a romantic partner, a friend, or a random roommate.

The person who wrote the article has decided that single people should live there. The residents interviewed said no such thing.

Fiddlerdragon · 27/02/2024 20:26

There were so many pop ups and glitches in the article that I could only read the first few lines. I read that the residents are saying it’s unsuitable for children, the one example I managed before the page failed said one reason was because the windows were not bolted securely, so I’m assuming fall hazard for a toddler? Couldn’t get anything further than that so not sure if I can agree with you or not, but there is a chance you’ve taken it out of context

IncompleteSenten · 27/02/2024 20:28

The space allocated would suit an individual rather than 2 or more people. Sounds fair enough.

Not feeling safe to leave a young child in a room while you go to a separate space to use a shared bathroom sounds reasonable.

oldpawn · 27/02/2024 20:30

musixa · 27/02/2024 17:53

I don't really get the distinction you're drawing, possibly me being dim.

What I mean is: imagine I was in a relationship with someone but we didn't live together. I could move into one of those rooms as a 'single' person i.e. one person living in the room. If I'm in a relationship or not is irrelevant to the living situation. Like how rooms in a student halls of residence - each is for one single person, irrespective of their relationship status. Hope I've explained that better!

musixa · 27/02/2024 22:03

oldpawn · 27/02/2024 20:30

What I mean is: imagine I was in a relationship with someone but we didn't live together. I could move into one of those rooms as a 'single' person i.e. one person living in the room. If I'm in a relationship or not is irrelevant to the living situation. Like how rooms in a student halls of residence - each is for one single person, irrespective of their relationship status. Hope I've explained that better!

Yes - I see what you mean now, thank you.

sleepyscientist · 27/02/2024 22:10

It sounds like an old uni halls of residence which is suitable for single people. Our halls were pretty bad (sounds like this place) I wouldn't have taken a kid in but we survived

fitzwilliamdarcy · 28/02/2024 10:24

I don't think anyone should be living in conditions like that in 2024.

People on their own aren't somehow immune to a disgusting living environment and a complete absence of privacy (no locks on shared bathroom doors). Yes, uni halls of residence can be vile but why should that mean that a single person of, say, 35 should have to live like that?

I accept that the residents didn't say that, but it feels heavily implied in the article (and several of the comments here).

XenoBitch · 04/03/2024 22:17

fitzwilliamdarcy · 28/02/2024 10:24

I don't think anyone should be living in conditions like that in 2024.

People on their own aren't somehow immune to a disgusting living environment and a complete absence of privacy (no locks on shared bathroom doors). Yes, uni halls of residence can be vile but why should that mean that a single person of, say, 35 should have to live like that?

I accept that the residents didn't say that, but it feels heavily implied in the article (and several of the comments here).

Yep, uni students living like that is not a long term or permanent arrangement anyway.

I hate that if you are a single and childless person, you should be grateful for a grotty bedsit as it is still a roof over your head. I know a gent who is 70 and lives in a HMO. He is always out in pubs in the day as he hates being at "home".

I also used to see a guy who lived in a massive HMO... 2 bathrooms for about 15 residents, and they were full of bicycles. The guy I knew joined a gym just to shower. Fuck knows how they managed during Covid.

JenniferBooth · 04/03/2024 23:20

Funny how Covid wasnt serious enough to create change in situations like that @XenoBitch

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