"Can't do xyz when you've got a child!"

[Potcurri]

Gah! I'm finding this comment increasingly irritating. It's mostly from the same close family member (not the other person in the couple doesn't say it!) We'll be chatting about what we've been up to and I'll say what I've done - maybe a walk or breakfast in bed and it's always the same comment. Last year I was chastised for having pancakes on shrove Tuesday! Never make the mistake of saying you're at all tired 😱I of course appreciate almost everything is more difficult to do with children, but that's not my fault. It's especially galling when the thing you've done is something they'd never have done pre-children anyway! My friends aren't like this at all, it's just one person but it does get so tiresome.

What nonsense. Of course you can take a walk/have breakfast in bed/pancakes in ST or whatever when you have kids. It may take a bit more planning, it may look different to how it is without children, but you can still do it.

What a fun-sponge.

Smile and ignore.

And enjoy being childfree. 😁

Just agree that you can’t, and it sounds like a shitty life.

I share an office with a baby-bore so you have my sympathy!
At least I can hide behind my PC during a massive eye roll.

When your children are very small, they are mobile and they go to bed early.
Who else do you make pancakes for if not children!

Well OP is either childfree or childless, so she was making them for herself/her partner not children.

Do you think adults without children shouldn’t celebrate Christmas either, because it’s for kids?

I admit to saying this a few times to friends/ colleagues, I was in grips of severe post natal depression.
Just agree, it sounds a bit rubbish. Enjoy your childfree life x

I don’t mean that, but there are years I wouldn’t have bothered for myself but I have for the children, I know a lot of my friends feel the same.
Of course adults can make them for themselves whenever they feel like it, I’m not saying they can’t.
I just don’t understand why having children is stopping her. Usually you go to the extra effort of doing it for them!

@LemonShirts Are we still talking about pancakes?!
I made pancakes every year for myself when I was childfree, and enjoyed them very much. HTH.

Me too.
But child free if I didn’t feel like making them, I wouldn’t. With children, if I didn’t but the children did, I would make them.
Im saying I don’t understand why having children is a barrier to making them. Not about wether people without children can have pancakes.

@LemonShirts A bit bizarre that this has turned into a pancake debate 😅
Children are not a barrier to making pancakes and childfree people also eat them of course!

But when I compare the times having pancakes before child to ones after child, it was more peaceful and enjoyable before 😆

Certain types of people are very upset that some people choose to be childfree and will use literally any argument to try and shame them, or be rude to them. The people having a go at op for making pancakes don't really care about the pancakes, they're just trying to make her feel bad about her choice/life.

Pancakes, be they sweet or savoury, are for everybody. Age is no barrier to their consumption and it seems rather narrow minded to suggest that they are.
Pancakes for all!

Childfree pancake lover here.

It’s a passive aggressive way of saying “you’ve got lots of time on your hands and I’m envious”.

Oh and I too don’t understand how having children could be stopping her from making pancakes? They take 5 minutes. They’re fun to make too, so get the kids involved, let them choose toppings, etc. Does this person have NO imagination?!

Exactly. Like my colleagues who do my head in by claiming they don’t have any weekends because they have kids. It’s just silliness.

I recently asked someone whether they liked a specific genre of books. They decided (yet again, it's pretty constant with them) to use the opportunity to lecture me on how parents don't have time to read

Except, I asked them because they were butting in on a conversation about reading that I was having with another parent that was initiated by that other parent

Also, my nephew lives with me currently. Which they know. Yet they still lecture me every single time I see them on all the things I "don't understand" because I'm not a parent.

Some parents just seem to like to martyr themselves.