Please talk to me about SINK life.

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I may be facing going from DINK to SINK and could do with some positives.

Single income no kids? Utterly rocks as far as I’m concerned. You’ll need cats though.

I'm covered on the cat front! My very own ginger prince.

Admittedly I do have a Dh, but he worked away for 20 years and now does night shift. So I can honestly say that after a period of adjustment - I did love being alone all week and used to have an oh shit Moment about half an hour before he was due in the door when I was a flurry of activity. I got quite a comfy routine going going to work, having the house exactly how I liked, coming and going to stuff without having to think of anyone else. (mobile phone weren’t an invention for most of the years either.). I think the only
downside was having to deal with some trades like mechanic as a woman - again times were different back then and I was out in the back of darkest, deepest Norfolk. But even that sexism could be used to be advantage if I was willing to play along.

nope, enjoy! You sound fabulously sorted.

Freedom - being able to genuinely do whatever you want. Being able to leave things down/leftovers in the fridge and they'll be exactly where you left them when you go back. No sharing a duvet. Not living with someone else's bodily functions. No wet towels on the carpet, or whatever bad habit may have annoyed you in your current living situation. I am now a DINK but was previously a SINK - I was far busier and more sociable (and more physically active) when a SINK because you make the effort to go out and socialise/exercise in a way I maybe don't when I have a partner. Sorry to hear your circumstances might be changing, I hope it's on your terms.

I could 100% have written this. When I was SINK my social life was buzzing!

Thanks all. I'm facing separation and need to look for some light.

I love my DH dearly, but even after 25 very happy years together there are days I long for my single life. If I found myself without him, there’s no way I’d live with a man ever again. I’d have my own place, and my own life, and all my own choices, and take a lover if that’s what I wanted or needed. Honestly, I am a little bit envious of the possibilities about to open up for you.

OP despite what TV ad's are trying to tell you, this is actually a good time of year to be single. You don't have to force yourself to put up with other people's family bullshit on Christmas, you can make the day whatever you want it to be. There are lots of people stuck in bad situations this time of year that are certainly not full of festive cheer.

Also, in the New Year you can make some great resolutions for what you want next year to look like. Plan for a nice holiday or adventure, take up a new hobby (there are lots of evening classes starting in the Spring), or just do that thing you always wanted to do but didn't for whatever reason.

I love living on my own and haven't bothered with dating. I could socialise far more than I do, it's not for lack of opportunity. When people ask if I'd marry again, I usually just laugh.

Like, it’s hard. Single income money doesn’t always go very far and there’s nobody else to help you pay the bills. You’re trapped in a job because you can’t just quit, and the mental load of everything falls on you.

But I wouldn’t have it any other way. You can do whatever you want.

I had chips for breakfast. ;-)