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What kinds of things would you want an au pair to do with your kids?

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sewmoose · 21/06/2010 03:58

Hey, I'm just looking for a bit of advice. I'm just finishing uni and thinking of trying to get a job as an au pair for a year. However, I've only really got casual experience of looking after kids from my family and babysitting etc.

I'm hoping someone who has an au pair could give me a little rundown of what sort of activities they'd like to do with their children (and their ages!). I just want to make sure it's definitely for me before I commit.

What kind of daily schedule would you expect?

What mix of fun/educational activities would you want?

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frakkit · 21/06/2010 05:55

Firstly where are you looking at au pairing? The expectation of British parents is rather different to, say, France or Italy.

In general au pairs aren't really expected to provide much in the way of educational activities - as long as the children aren't sitting watching TV, get their homework done and are encouraged to play outside once in a while most parents are pretty content in tge UK! If you go abroad you might be expected to teach the children English.

What age children would you be looking at as well? Or are you flexible?

sewmoose · 23/06/2010 01:47

Thanks for your advice, it doesn't sound too bad then! I'm quite flexible, though I'm not sure I'm ready to deal with kids under the age of about 2. I'm looking at going to France, so yes I expect they'll want me to teach English. Do you think they would want formal 'teaching' or more just someone to communicate with their kids and let them learn by osmosis?

Also, my French is quite basic. Will this be a problem?

Thanks so much for your help!

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ben5 · 23/06/2010 02:15

have you looked at doing something like camp america? most of the camps run over the summer months. also they might be able to put you in contact with au pair companies.

StillSquiffy · 23/06/2010 09:27

Being only able to speak basic French will of course be a problem in much of France - go to ocnversational classes first. It is not so much about understanding instructions but very much about being able to understand the why (if that makes sense). Otherwise I think you never really develop any empathy with the family and vice versa. We have had APs whose language skills are basic and it isn't much fun. The ones who spoke english the best where always the ones who fitted in the best.

And you will struggle to 'teach' English if you can't speak French.

Far better to pick an English-speaking country if your language skills aren't great.

Expectations vary by country, and form family to family

You will have to think of why someone will want to hire you and not the 500 other applicants, and then you have to put that particular selling point in your profile. With the credit crunch there are thousands of girls looking for work - including many many graduates - and the ones that get the good jobs all have something extra - they will have worked in summer camps or held down jobs whilst at Uni to show they are hardworking, or will speak the language well or are able to demonstrate a genuine love for children. Otherwise you may struggle at the moment. Normally I cannot get people ot apply to work where I live because I am out in the sticks and not near a city, but this year I have had more than 150 applications from one website alone, despite being really 'strict' in terms of criteria that I demand (ie I have had over 100 applicants who are all drivers, over 25, graduates with work experience involving children, and most of whom speak good English). It's a tough world for APs at the moment.

frakkit · 23/06/2010 10:44

"Thanks for your advice, it doesn't sound too bad then! I'm quite flexible, though I'm not sure I'm ready to deal with kids under the age of about 2. I'm looking at going to France, so yes I expect they'll want me to teach English. Do you think they would want formal 'teaching' or more just someone to communicate with their kids and let them learn by osmosis?"

  • They won't want formal teaching, they want immersion for their children IME, so speaking to the children in English all the time, playing games in English etc. Those who do want formal teaching won't hire you unless you actually have a TEFL qualification or a PGCE/similar. In France you'll be expected to do more in the way of 'educational' activities because parents who have English speaking au pairs tend to want to see progress!

Also, my French is quite basic. Will this be a problem?

  • Honestly, yes. Make sure you have enough French to call the fire brigade, an ambulance, do the shopping and open up a bank account before you go. Is the reason you're going to improve your French? How basic is basic?

You will need to at least understand French to deal with the children and you'll probably be expected to supervise homework (dictee, times tables etc) which will require French. There is nothing more frustrating than trying to communicate with children when you don't speak each other's language. I've done it once and am never, ever doing it again. By all means pretend to them that you don't speak French and only ever speak English but you'll need to understand what they're saying, especially if they're upset.

It depends what kind of job you want. A lot of au pairs where I was in Paris did after school pick-ups/Wednesday care for children and spoke English to them. The parents often spoke English too and they didn't learn any French.

That said I know a lovely family moving from here to Brittany who might be interested in an au pair and wouldn't mind if they only had basic French. The mother does speak English and the father is an ex-student of mine but only has fairly basic English. Only snag is the children are 1 and 3!

In France you're not likely to do morning drop off at school, although you may. Children sometimes come home for lunch and school ends around 3.30 or 4. There's no school on Wednesdays but often lots of running around to activities. If you're not in Paris (and even sometimes if you are) then you'll need to drive. You probably won't be expected to cook dinner as they eat quite late but will have to sort out their after school snack and do lunch whenever they're home. Children usually start at maternelle at about the age of 3 so if you don't want children under the age of 2 I'd specify you want school aged children on your profile.

If you fancy coming to the bit of France that's in the Indian Ocean I know a family who were looking for an English speaker here! Own flat and car, school aged children, tropical island....

I agree with squiffy - the market is pretty saturated with childcarers. A lot of them will be graduates, often with child-care related or language degrees, or people with a childcare qualification, drivers and have a good knowledge of the language already. If you have another marketable skill such as music that will help, as will experience of living abroad, previous jobs (especially with children).

One tip - put your profile information in French AND English. A classic mistake for au pairs wanting to go and 'teach' English is just to put it in English and then a lot of the information is lost. Get someone to check your French over (happy to help if you want) to make sure you don't make any heinous mistakes but make sure they don't add anything you don't understand/use horrifically advanced structures or parents will have very high expectations of your French!

Where in France do you want to be?

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