Nanny with own child?

[PotMarigold]

A nanny suggested she bring her own baby along as part of the deal. my DC are school age and the DD would love a baby (they say). My prior is that this doesnt sound a good idea, especially for the DSs - but has anyone had experience of this sort of arrangement?

Consider how it will affect things - for example your children going to a themepark... would baby go? Consider transport - how would nanny get your DCs and baby to and from places? Consider if you want baby things in your home again?

Some people say it works, others say it doesn't. You may not know until you try.

Does the nanny meet all your other requirements, have you met them and get on well with them and have your DCs met them?

I find things work better when nanny's child and employer's child are of a similar age.

Older children do love to have a baby around and it can be good for them but it does tend to restrict their activities - particularly in school holidays.

Is it a before and after school job, or full time? If you're having trouble recruiting someone for the hours you need a nanny with her own baby might be a good solution (cheaper too).

I had a nanny with her own child (only 1 day a week though) but her DD was roughly the same age as my DS so it worked really well. I wouldn't want to have a nanny with a child much younger than mine because of the restrictions on activities. My DS1 already has lots of restrictions simply because of DS2's age. But they are MY children. Why would I pay for someone to bring that restriction with them?

If nanny had a school age child and she/he was there for just the after school times then it wouldn't be as much of an issue for me.

I would only entertain this if she was reducing her rate by a considerable amount.

Might work if you're also looking for someone to be on a retainer for sick days off school, etc, and don't want to be paying full whack for those hours. I'd do it for afterschool/holiday if it was necessary for the right person, but not for full-time.

Hi All

I currently worl before/after school in term and full days in the holidays. I also have an 21 month old boy who does come with me, however 2 full days a wk he spends with grandparents (flex arrangement). The other 3 days he is with me until around 2.30pm when he is dropped off with grandpa/daddy or nanny. If my childcare was to fall through then I just need to let my boss know - its not her ideal him being around but we have both compromised to make sure it works for us both.
I look after a 4 and 6 yr old boys, so those 3 days the youngest has a play mate for a couple of hours. Even if my baby is with me, he never comes first, he misses out on sleeps (trust me, he really isnt my focus!) I have worked since he was 8 weeks old, so he is used to being independent, just mooches around. I can get all my nursery duties done easily, even though a 3 storey house with no gates! In all I have 15 yrs experience and it took me a long while to find my position and initially mum had seen my cv privately and said no because of baby...and here I am working for her 3 months later! I also dont get penalised financially bringing him with me, I still do over and above what is expected, especially as a I have him, I feel I owe it to them for giving me a chance. That said, I wont be taken advantage of either! I truly couldnt survive on 65% of my previous wage just because I have him, after all I am on call for sickness, do washing/ironing, tidying bedrooms,homework, cook dinners, put family shopping away, receive deliveries for family,I just brought storage and re organised their dumping/junk room...oh and if I am lucky have 10 mins for a cuppa!

Anyway...I am for nannies with own child at normal rates and I also have a friend that has retained her wages even though has own baby, a 4yr old and 7 yr old..it works because we know we have to work extra hard.

Good luck

Hi All

I currently worl before/after school in term and full days in the holidays. I also have an 21 month old boy who does come with me, however 2 full days a wk he spends with grandparents (flex arrangement). The other 3 days he is with me until around 2.30pm when he is dropped off with grandpa/daddy or nanny. If my childcare was to fall through then I just need to let my boss know - its not her ideal him being around but we have both compromised to make sure it works for us both.
I look after a 4 and 6 yr old boys, so those 3 days the youngest has a play mate for a couple of hours. Even if my baby is with me, he never comes first, he misses out on sleeps (trust me, he really isnt my focus!) I have worked since he was 8 weeks old, so he is used to being independent, just mooches around. I can get all my nursery duties done easily, even though a 3 storey house with no gates! In all I have 15 yrs experience and it took me a long while to find my position and initially mum had seen my cv privately and said no because of baby...and here I am working for her 3 months later! I also dont get penalised financially bringing him with me, I still do over and above what is expected, especially as a I have him, I feel I owe it to them for giving me a chance. That said, I wont be taken advantage of either! I truly couldnt survive on 65% of my previous wage just because I have him, after all I am on call for sickness, do washing/ironing, tidying bedrooms,homework, cook dinners, put family shopping away, receive deliveries for family,I just brought storage and re organised their dumping/junk room...oh and if I am lucky have 10 mins for a cuppa!

Anyway...I am for nannies with own child at normal rates and I also have a friend that has retained her wages even though has own baby, a 4yr old and 7 yr old..it works because we know we have to work extra hard.

Good luck

Thank you for all these useful thoughts