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childminder moving house a bit of a big decision don't you think?

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kolacubes · 12/05/2010 17:38

My dc have CM for after school. They came home and said CM is probably going to move house, I said oh did CM tell you this, and they said no her dc did.

I presumed this to be a case of child thinking something is happening immeninently when the parents are just having a chat, and it could be a long term plan for the future. And that is why CM has not mentioned it.

However, have now seen a for sale sign has gone up. CM drops dc round at gps so I don't see her, she's not mentioned it to gps, nor mentioned it to me via email/text our normal lines of communication.

Would you not notify mindees if you are planning on moving, i.e. it may be inconvenient new location or you may be moving area, or even to reassure with we are moving house, but only round the corner so won't have any impact.

I would of thought a CM's venue is probably a key point to mention to your mindees. Or do others think not?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 12/05/2010 17:41

maybe she is moving around same area so didnt think she needed to tell you, tho obv would have been easier if she did

you are going to have to ask her

BoysAreLikeDogs · 12/05/2010 17:43

Gosh yes I would expect her to let parents know that a move is a possibility

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kolacubes · 12/05/2010 18:20

ok so me to email and query politely is not being unreasonable?

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looneytune · 12/05/2010 18:57

I'm a CM and think she should have said something, yes, but maybe she thinks it could take months and may not even sell for what they want? If moving out of the area was the plan then I'd be gutted that she didn't say but if staying very local, maybe she wanted to talk about it IF they sell their house? A bit like when I was pregnant, I really wanted to tell parents but just couldn't until I had my scan just before 12 weeks as was paranoid about it all going wrong.

I'd email her like you said, but just a casual 'oh, X said this and noticed for sale sign up, are you planning on moving far away?' - suppose it depends on your relationship but I'd definitely ask. Just not in a having a go way

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kolacubes · 12/05/2010 19:04

i'll play nicely

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Blondeshavemorefun · 12/05/2010 19:09

I wouldn't email but ask her in person

Or do you never see her if drops off at gp?

looneytune · 12/05/2010 19:11

. If it turns out she's planning to move far away, I'd politely point out that maybe it would have been nice to be told and not to find out through kids and a very obvious for sale sign!! Good luck, I moved house whilst minding and luckily it worked great. I told all parents, did the necessary risk assessments and contacted Ofsted and made sure I had the timings right for a new certificate so apart from taking the move day off, I was back to business the next working day!!

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kolacubes · 12/05/2010 19:12

Unfortunately I never very rarely see her, I could always get nosy grandma to ask .

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kolacubes · 12/05/2010 19:14

looneytune - now you are concerning me i hadn't thought of all those considerations for ofsted, so even if local there could be delays between premises.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 12/05/2010 19:16

Nosey grandma is a good idea or ring her

looneytune · 12/05/2010 19:16

Oh a nosy grandma would put her on the spot a bit more Seriously, do what you feel is best. All my families email me as well as talk to me. I've had parents msn me to chat about their child's worrying behaviour etc etc. but I know that it's not easy to talk about that sort of stuff at pickup (mental and other parents about) so I don't mind. If I was to get a phonecall about this sort of stuff, if possible, I'd prefer it outside of childminding hours purely because the kids always mess about when on the phone and I'd want to give the conversation the time it deserved.

Anyway, do as you feel is appropriate as you know your relationship best

Blondeshavemorefun · 13/05/2010 21:03

So has granny asked yet?

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kolacubes · 13/05/2010 21:46

No it was dh today, and he said 'i forgot'! Argh men I tell you!

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Blondeshavemorefun · 13/05/2010 21:56

bloody men!!!!

OnlyWantsOne · 14/05/2010 07:14

maybe she has put house on market to see what sort of responce she gets?

I burst into tears when I saw my lovely neighbour had got a forsale sign up - as shes my best friend, but, she only wanted to see if people were interested to she could weigh up her options

nannyl · 14/05/2010 08:16

dont forget it can take months to move... brother in law put his on market in september and has had one viewing...

father in law put house on market in january and again only 1 viewing...

so given that nothing at all might happen for ages, i see no reason why she needs to tell you yet...

majafa · 14/05/2010 11:14

Im a childminder and just out of courtsey, would tell my parents that I was thinking of moving, I wouldnt wait till I had a For Sale sign put up..
I would email her to and just mention that 'DC came home today/whenever and said shed been told by your/CM DC that you were moving, was it a possibility?'

RosieGirl · 14/05/2010 12:26

I only found out early this year that one of my parents has had the house on the market for quite a while. I had to drop off some bits to them and noticed. He is one of my main incomes, but the parent didn't think to tell me - not that they had to.

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kolacubes · 14/05/2010 19:50

Well grandma (good old grandma) asked, and the response was 'don't worry only moving round the corner'.

That is good, still think we should of been told prior to the board going up, could imagine it may be unsettling for the children if they wonder if location is changing. My dc have asked whether we are moving!!

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