Dealing with two year olds. Some advice please

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What expectation should I have from a 2 year old? What would you allow them to do and not to do? ie grabbing, hitting out, shouting no etc.

thanks

do you mean a 24 month-er or a 34 month-er?

28 month old, sorry should do it in months.

Do you find that the parents have differnt boundries to what you have?

Have you got a particular problem you want advice about as your post is a bit odd?
As glad to help but its a bit unclear as to your problem.

Ok from a childminder (and I suppose a parents POV) - my house my rules - children soon learn the difference between home and here.

Children are expected to have manners in accordance with their age.
Grabbing, snatching,, pushing, hitting, biting - basically unwanted behaviour is gently discouraged.
Wanted behaviour is encouraged like sharing, tidying, saying please/thank you etc.

Perhaps they sound like high expectations but that is what I have from children - high expectations. We start small and go from there. Obviously you take into account their current understanding, background etc.

without the expectations then they have nothing to aim for.

well yes sometimes

but the children learn from quite a young age that at BALDy's house we do xxx even if at home they do yyy

my behaviour policy sets out clearly the techniques I use to guide the children

have you looked again at these?

Parents may well have different boundaries. Children behave differently for different people. Children can adapt to having one set at rules when with one person and another set of rules when with another person.

yy to high expectations

Sorry if I am not too clear.

I look after quite a few children of varying ages. One of the little ones has been very challenging in the past. I have had to set boundries as the parents did not know how to handle the behaviour.

Most of this behaviour was being displayed at my home ie hitting, biting, screaming etc. I had to set boundries and let the parents know what was hapening and ensure that we were working together. Some of the behaviour that was displayed whilst the mum was present was just ignored by the mum.

I guess everyone has their expectation of what is acceptable and what is not.

Looking back things are much better now but I had to really be consistant in dealing with the behaviour. Being independant is good but boundries are very important to ensure a child is safe and knows what is acceptable and what is not.

also bear in mind that pick up and drop off can be a flashpoint; you have to think about asserting your authority - your rules still apply even if parent is there

good luck

Thanks for that. I must admit that I have had to correct the child quite a few times when mum has been there. Some times kids can change and show off when parnets arrive. If it not nice then I am not afraid to correct it.