CM Club - AIBU to be annoyed!!

[Mollycat1]

I have just discovered a post from one of the parents of the children I mind slagging me off and not only that she is my SIL (hence I know her user name!!)!!!

She was complaining that I treat her DD different to all the others and that I get cross with her more than the others, neither of this is true!! There is no reason that she should think this as I see her maybe once a week at drop of rest of the time its her DH who comes. I sent her DD home with runny poo last week as with my illness policy and she was also complaining about that as her DD was fine when she took her home.

Now she is complaining that I am taking on a 5th child which is true and that I havent told her and that her DD's care is compromised but I have not seen her to talk to her and as the children I have are part time it doesnt change anything on any of the days I have her DD.

Should she not be speaking to me about her concerns I am so annoyed that she has mentioned nothing to me at all.

Surely you should be speaking to her about it, rather than carrying on raising it on here.

Ooooh should have said that she is not on this board!!! I am looking for opinions to whether I should just ignore what she says from CM's and see what they would do in my position??

I think I agree with Littlefish if you saw her post she will doubtless see this, therefore the problem will become a big one and will go from bad to worse.

I have a policy of not working with family, gets to complicated and rarely goes smoothly.

I suppose you have two choices 1. be direct tell her you have seen her concerns on here and see what happens or 2. Give her the opportunity to comment in a round about way on hand over.

If I were you though I would ask for this thread to be taken off, as I think nothing good will come of it.

As I said on my second post she is not on this board, i use this board because i am from the UK and no about it, she is not!! She did not post on this board hence why I am asking advice on here!!

OOO I see

Well I dont think YABU to be annoyed that she is posting about you, but then I suppose she may be wondering what to do and is asking for other opinions.

I do however also think that its non of her business how many mindees you have, she has no reason to know that her dc's care would be compromised with another child starting.

She states that she believes that you treat her child differently, this point I think needs addressing with her as whether she is your SIL or not I wouldn't like it if a parent felt this way. I wouldn't tell her that you know about the post, but I would make the opportunity available to discuss the childs progress, could you do a contract review or development update?

YABU because as much as she is posting about you, you are also posting about her.....

Why did you not speak to her about it when you found her posts? Surely that would be a better way to communicate??

Thanks "artworknotworking" I think you are right about making time like a child review thats a good idea! I have been caring for SIL DD for 18mths and its always been fine so I really dont know whats changed and we have always treated it a profesional job even though she is family so to speak!!!

Aaarrggghh think I am just stressing over nothing probably, one of those days