Have been put on the IVF waiting list and don't know how to tell employers...

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I've namechanged for this, just in case, if anyone works out who I am, please don't say anything

I work as a nanny for one of the best families EVER. My job is fab and I never want to leave, baby is 8 months old, have been with him since 11 weeks.

Prior to getting this job my DP and I were having investigative stuff done as to why we couldn't conceive. We found out recently that based on what they have found, they can offer us one cycle of IVF.

Its all happened rather quickly and now I am panicking as I don't know what to tell my lovely boss!
I have already told a fib when I was having my HSG done, I said I was having an ultrasound because of painful periods so already I have decieved her and I feel terrible

I am worried because I don't want her to think I am a liar (which I clearly am..!) or think less of me because the outcome may affect my job.

Oh I don't know, I don't even know if I'm making any sense

annh - yes this was discussed at interview (tho obv mb can change her mind)

My DH has an employee undergoing IVF - (a) it worked the first time and (b)it did affect her performance. So I think you're right to be thinking of letting your employer know.

I'm a nanny employer and I like to think I'd be very sympathetic to my nanny if she had IVF - it's so completely understandable from my point of view why my nanny would want children, especially as they must've seen how lovely mine are . It sounds like you've thought through many of the issues and I would appreciate nanny bringing solutions and propositions, rather than declarations and entitlements. I would mention it to your employer though, sooner than later, to give them more time to plan for potential disruptions. Good luck.

I did it - I told MB this evening and she was nothing but happy and excited for me, in fact she called me a 'looney' for being worried about it

I feel so silly for making it far worse in my head than it needed to be

I explained about the appointments etc and she said as long as she had notice of the days I might be running late etc we could make it work she also said that if all was successful, ML wouldn't be a problem as she would inform the nursery (he goes on M/F) that he would be doing extra sessions etc.

I am going to be absolutely honest with her from here on in and let her know exactly what is going on to the best of my ability!

I really feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders and thank you to everyone who posted

Glad she was so nice good luck

So pleased chat went well

now take a deep breath and relax and wishing you for a sucess xxxx

That's all great news Good luck with the IVF. x

Just come in on this thread. Glad all went well with your employer.

All the best with the treatment. My 8 year old son is the result of successful first time IVF

Aww, thanks everyone for your kind words and well wishes!

theladylovescupcakes that is exactly the kind of thing I want to hear!!!
I think I've finally got my head around everything now, so I'm just waiting for CD1 to come around, then CD21 its all systems go, go GO!

x

Hello, just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world with your treatment.

I am a nanny who did an ivf cycle in March. Unfortunately it was unsuccessful, and although thats not what you wanted to hear, you do get over it suprisingly quickly, hopefully you wont have to find that out tho!!

I have 5 good quality frozen embryo's and will be trying again with 2 of those in the next couple of months.

Doing IVF whilst nannying is difficult as the children obviously dont know what your going through and you are so aware of getting stressed or your stomach getting touched! That you can become quite paranoid!

I told my boss right from the start and it turned out her sister had been through it, she was very supportive and that took alot of pressure off.

I found it relatively easy to get to appointments as you can usually book them for first thing in the morning and once I'd started the stimulant injections I had a weeks notice for all the other scans and a rough date for egg collection and embryo transfer, so just took those days off unpaid.

I hope your cycle goes well for you and please feel free to message me if you have any questions or just want to chat.