Best way to leave

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I am having some problems at my work and have been there 7 months the child does not like me at all and does not want to do anything with me. I have tried my hardest and not sure what to do and i have also heard a conversation about me which i was not meant to hear by the parents and the child, They thought i had already left for the evening so i dont feel very happy there.What would you do and how would you approach this situation?

smupcakes - where does it say the parents said he wasn't a nice boy?

No i didnt say he was not a nice boy at all. he is infact a good boy. I need to do stuff with him in holidays so therefore it would be nice if he can do things with me.Im just going on by my exp and usually children want to play, talk about stuff show me stuff etc .
i really appriciate the advice so thanks.
But yes this whole discussion was about THE BEST WAY TO LEAVE , thanks

Tbh he sounds a lot like my ex charge was getting at 8. Only child, enjoyed computers, wanted to veg out at home! He liked board games but wouldn't have baked if you'd paid him (although he was happy to eat the results), somedays he wanted to play, others he wanted to be left alone and read. I'm sure you know that different children have different interests and it just sounds like this chappy wants to be left to chill out and isn't up for doing stuff after school. Is it different at all in the hols?

FWIW I don't find it at all odd to have a ft nanny for a school aged child, especially if parents work long hours.

I'm a bit at his parents' comment about that just being the way he is. Obviously some children are solitary but you'd think they would appreciate you being proactive. On the other hand it means relatively little input for you if you di it their way so a relatively easy job! What I do find sad/odd is them talking about you thinking you'd left when you were there-don't you go to say goodbye to them/them see you to the door?

If you're really not happy of course you should leave. I'm curious why you think the parents don't like you though and also why you took this job in the first place? Do you prefer to work with school aged children seeing as you said you've had a 12 and 9 year old in the past and this is the 4th 9year old? Just sounds in the end like it's not a good fit.

Oh and the best way to leave is check your contract for notice and write a letter saying you're giving notice and your last day, don't need to give a reason, but in 18 years you must have done that before.

Hi Frakkinaround.
Yes they do see me at the door sometimes other times they dont, on this occasion we were upstairs at the time when i said bye to them but i couldnt find my mobile and was looking around for it downstairs untill i heard my name so i started listening to the conversation.This is the reason i think they dont like me because of the stuff i heard, and also because of the way the child is with me sometimes quite rude where as with his parents and other adults he is not. I took this job in the first place because i needed a job and at first they seemed fine and i only noticed changes 2 months later. My role is usually nanny and housekeeper but my last job was just nanny, it varies.Yes i realise how to leave but i was bit unsure "how" to in "this" situation, i guess i wasnt sure if it was the right thing to do. I usually do work with school aged children. oh and in holidays we usually do cinemas, parks and going to some art galleries but other times he may have a friend over and just play on electronics.He seems like someone who does like to be on his own. But the parents do work and it is understandable that they need a nanny to look after him. I have done holiday work before for parents, theres nothing you can do if parents need to work .

In answer to your question the best way to leave is to sit down with them tomorrow evening and say that although you find their son delightful and have really enjoyed the last 7 months, you have found yourself a little sad because you miss the involvement you had with younger children, and would they really mind it if you started looking for another position, with a view to leaving at the end of the Easter holiday (or whenever).

It seems that they themselves probably want someone different (though heaven knows what they actually want), and this way you clear the air and will probably get a good reference.

Nothing to stop you just finding another job and resigning of course, but you might not get a brilliant reference if you do that.

I agree Squiffy that that would be the nicest way of going about it - but wouldn't it be a little risky? What if the OP doesn't find another job by the time she has worked her notice?