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CM Club: i started crying when telling Dad about fall i had while holding baby!!!!!

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Numberfour · 04/03/2010 18:18

I tripped and fell today, holding an 11 month old. Purely and simply an accident. The LO had no bruises, no cuts, no bumps, no lumps - only a few tears.

But i was almost hysterical for a few minutes and then after i calmed down (was at toddlers with my CM friends) I was okay. Baby blew raspberries all the way home, ate excellent lunch, good sleep, happy and gurgling.

So dad arrives to fetch him and I started crying while telling him what happened. He was very kind and understanding and said that Lo looked 100%, which he does.

Now I feel foolish for reacting like that because it may seem that things are worse than they are! and because it is not very professional at all to cry when reporting to parents!

a bit of hand holding needed please.... and a cup of tea! (no wine: on a diet)

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SillyMillysMummy · 04/03/2010 18:39

Aw No4.......sod the diet and crack a bottle open

dont sweat it hunny, its not the end of the world, you are human after all. xxx

StealthPolarBear · 04/03/2010 18:40

if i was the parent i'd be pleased you cared
one of ds's nursery staff looked upset when she said he had really sore nappy rash - rather that than uncaring

abbierhodes · 04/03/2010 18:44

As a parent who has used lovely childminders, I'd be very touched that you clearly cared so much.

I don't want a 'professional' looking after my child, I want a loving, caring human being.

thisisyesterday · 04/03/2010 18:53

ditto the others, i'd be glad that you cared enough to feel that deeply about it! it clearly shook you up.

not sure about the near hysterical bit though!

giraffesCantCeilidhDance · 04/03/2010 18:57

You had a shock, some people get emotional easily - I know I do

At least you told them - some might have lied/covered it up to protect themselves and it shows you care and how worried you were.

Have some choc!

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Numberfour · 04/03/2010 19:16

thanks, everyone. yes, i had a huge shock. i fell down on concrete and LO landed on his back and from what I saw it looked like he banged his head! but my friend saw it happen and assured me that i cushioned his fall.

yes, hysterical is not good at all (though it was almost..... i did yell that someone should call an ambulance!) but 10 min later LO was playing and gurgling and happy.

oh boy, what a day.

thanks again, everyone. i just needed to get that off my chest.

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giraffesCantCeilidhDance · 04/03/2010 19:27

number4 its really amazing sometimes what our body does to protect children, I always worry about falling with charges because as not mine I worry if my subconcious brain will protect them or me iykwim. Obviously I want to protect their fall but I worry primal instinct or whatever would save myself when falling.

However last May I fell in a soft play centre and landed akwardly to avoid charge - I ended up tearing a ligament and needing an op!

A few weeks ago it was snowy/slushy and I slipped with buggy and never leg go of buggy once - it fell backwards and landed on my leg. Meant I landed with a big bump as didnt put arms out but my body somehow knew to keep hold of buggy because road right beside me and buggy might have skidded on to road. I find it facinating how in that split second our brains know to protect the dc but if we had a box in our arms for example then we'd drop that. And its all completely unconcious.

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Numberfour · 04/03/2010 19:40

good grief, giraffe! i thought i had had a bad day! poor you.

but you are right. something kicks in and we protect as best we can.

i hope you are fit and strong again. i was fortunate and did not really hurt myself at all - maybe some bruises will appear, but nothing like you went through!

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Northernlurker · 04/03/2010 19:44

I tripped when holding dd1 and cut her head - I was an absolute wreck - when I took her to hospital (pfb and it was quite a big cut to the head) they took one look at her and said 'well she's fine but are you sure you are' Therefore were one of dd3's nursery staff react as you have done I would both recognise it and be pleased that you cared so much. The baby is fine, you're fine, sounds like Dad was cool with it. I would be prepared for mum to ask you about it when you see her next but otherwise I wouldn't give it a second thought.

Shoshe · 04/03/2010 19:47

No.4 just a quickie, I did something almost identical a few years ago, tripped going out the front door, managed to throw my self side ways so didnt hurt 6 month old baby, twisted my knee and ended up with it in a brace for ages.

That was 3 years 6 months ago, that bay is 4 today, and I have her baby sister, parents are going to have to travel further to bring them to me when I move next month, and yes I burst into tears when I saw the parents when it happened.

We are human, that dosnt make us unprofessional. accidents happen

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Numberfour · 04/03/2010 20:29

thanks, shoshe. that means an awful lot to me. xx

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Karoleann · 04/03/2010 23:21

Don't worry , it just shows you care. My nanny opened the door to me a year ago in floods of tears as she'd dislocated my 4 month olds arm playing with him. Being medically trained I know its a really easy thing to do and was really calm, but her reaction was okay - I knew she didn't mean to do it and I didn't think she was any less professional for he reaction.
Incidentally, I did the same thing to him about 6 weeks later.

CaitlinMeringue · 04/03/2010 23:49

omg no4 x x x

jenduff · 05/03/2010 07:27

no4 if I was the parent I would be touched that you cared so much - I don't think its remotely unprofessional - if you'd been cold and distant about it I would have been very upset

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Numberfour · 05/03/2010 10:32

thanks, again everyone.

mum texted me a photo of baby this morning, happy and smiley (he does not come to me on Fridays) and said that he was 100% fine, asking me if i was okay!!

that made my day!

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Saucepanman · 06/03/2010 00:51

Oh bless you. If I were the mum in question, I would be really touched that you cared so much. Hope you're ok (have the wine!)

lollipopmother · 06/03/2010 16:49

Oh God that would've been such a shock, no wonder you cried, I would've done exactly the same.

I thought I had lost one of my after-schoolers once, I was dialling the mums number into my mobile then I was going to phone the police, that's how lost I thought she was! When I found her I had to turn away as I just burst into tears and the poor little darling (she's 10) came and comforted me which made me cry even more! I told her mum when she came home and I very nearly started crying then as well - I apologised for crying infront of mindee and mum said that she would've done exactly the same!!

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Numberfour · 06/03/2010 18:13

thanks, sauce and lolli!

lolli, that must have been awful for you.

the things that we put ourselves through, eh?

(still no wine........ and no choc...... and no popcorn despite going to the cinema this afternoon with DS!)

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