Taking your nanny on holiday etiquette??

[Drinkerbell]

Hiya - we have just found a fantastic nanny and we asked her whether she would be comfortable/able to come on holidays with us.

We have 3 DCs under 6 and so it is a busy household!

I wanted to ask for the benefit of your wisdom on some good dos and don'ts for taking nanny with you on a summer holiday.

I spoke to one nanny just in general conversation recently who said she absolutely refused to fly with the family (she wanted to relax on the plane), she refused to have any children in her room, she expected lots of time to herself etc.

I wondered what the normal process is?
How much extra do you pay them? What are the general duties, time off?

Our nanny is not at all the type to be unwilling to pitch in but also we want to make sure we treat her well and are fair in terms of our expectations!!

Any thoughts much appreciated!

we took our nanny skiing when the children were younger. we didn't pay her any extra and she did share a room with the children.

But she skied every afternoon and we covered all expenses including private lessons.

this was all discussed and agreed before we went and if she had not wanted to come then we would have made other arrangements.

i agree with everyone else here - you need to talk to her and see what works and is considered fair by both parties as it will completely depend on circumstances. if you or she are going to resent any aspect of the arrangements it risks spoiling your holiday and it's not worth it.

drinkyourmilk thanks so much for those tips. I think you're absolutely right, we would definitely try to be more generous/considerate rather than have the nanny possibly feel awkward asking for things.

Definitely own room, sorry in my post I meant that the nanny I chatted to wouldn't allow the children to even enter her room to say good morning or anything! (Maybe she had sneaked a tasty waiter in there the night before..[wink)

In terms of it being crowded, I don't really find that a problem. It's hectic anyway with the DCs! It also means my DH can go off and have some time to himself playing golf or doing something he likes without having to worry about how I'm getting along with the three DCs. And that works for me (and the nanny!) as well if we want to visit a spa or something nice like that.
Otherwise I will probably come back from the 'holiday' being more knackered than I was when I went!!

I don't allow children in my room at all either, whether on holiday or living-in You have to have some private space.

Me neither. They learn to knock at the door and then I either come out or they go away!

Hi. Looking to take a nanny abroad on holiday to France drive from London. Our current nanny can’t make it. Where do we start finding, vetting someone?

@Highfield44 I'm an experienced nanny and available over the whole summer if you're still looking?

I absolutely would never take a nanny on holiday, I can't imagine any nanny actually enjoying or wanting to do this and it would purely be as they are desperate for the money.