Night nanny recommendations (London) for anxious Mum?

[Gilliana1]

Has anyone had a BRILLIANT night nanny that they could recommend (I'm SE London)?

I had horrible depression caused by chronic lack of sleep (unfortunately no relatives around to help out/hubbie working long hours and a baby with bad reflex) with my first child so I want to find a safe pair of hands for my newborn so I get some sleep.

I'm expecting my second baby in April 2010 and could really do with a brilliant night nanny (live out) on a part time basis for the first couple of months so I keep my sanity!!!

Any recommendations would be wonderful,

Thank you.

Hello Hopefully someone on here will be able to help you sure there are a few night nannies who come on here or maternity nurses who are willing to do just nights.

I am in east midlands so too far from you but I do 2-3 nights generally starting with 3 nights for 4-6wks reassesing after 4 wks what future support is needed but would suggest you book someone for a min of 6wks.

In london for an experienced night nanny booked privately you would expect to pay £12-£15 an hr gross.

alternatively you could contact the agency night nannies not sure about their fees but night nannies are paid £8 an hr.

In east midlands I charge £12-£16 an hr depending on if singles or twins.

Thanks for the advice, what sort of questions should I think of asking a night nanny?

I've met one so far but to be honest I was a bit scared of her!! Plus, she said that she leaves the newborns to cry for a while as they have to get used to sleeping independently. I probably pampered my first child to death - but the idea of leaving a newborn crying seemed a bit cruel to me. She said if they don't resettle themselves in 10 mins she will pick them up - but I didn't think I could sleep knowing my newborn was crying like that. What do you think?

have you thought about a post natal doula?

some of them do over nighters ...

your new baby may be a better sleeper though?

FWIW, i don't agree with leaving a new born to cry for 10 mins to learn to sleep independently

i wouldn't hire her

If you didnt get on with the night nanny then dont hire her you have to click with a night nanny bearing in mind you will be sleeping and leaving her/him to get on with it.

I go with what the parents want some people want you just to feed the baby on demand and are not too bothered about a routine which is fine.

Other families want a routine asap but I wouldnt be leaving a newborn to cry for 10mins I would leave for a few mins if they were not due a feed to see if they resettled if just a few cries but if got louder and wasnt calming then would go in after a few mins.

Recently night nannied twins from 7 days old - first night was hard as it was their first night home and they had an awful night up all night between them, but got them both into a 3hrly then 4hrly routine at night by 3wks old then at 8wks we reduced the middle of night feed then switched to water, one of them was sleeping through at 11wks (7wks adjusted age) and the other we did leave to cry for 6mins (the length of the baby mobile tune) as he was just waking through habit and he did sleep through from 14wks but was lots of preseverance on mums and my part.

Good luck with your search for a night nanny and go for someone who has experience with newborns, wants the same for your baby as you do ie- happy to demand feed and not let baby cry if thats what you want and also you need to like them!

I work as a night nanny but am too far from you.

I would never leave a newborn to cry for 10 minutes. A baby has been held in you and nurtured for 9 months. They will cry for a cuddle and food and that need should be met quickly.

Babies that are left in their pram for walks and put into their own bed/crib/moses basket for some of their sleeps will learn how to sleep independantly.

I also work as a doula and am more than happy to put an enquirey onto the doula uk and nurturing birth websites for you.

I hope you find someone you like and who has the same ideas about baby care that you have.

Paulamummyknowsbest was the name I was trying to think of yesterday but alas she is also too far from you.

Hope you find someone suitable. I can recommend the agency www.kidsmatter.uk.com

Hi, Good evening,

We live in London and our son, Mateo, 19 months needs to be fed (baby bottle) every 3 hours while he sleeps, literally it takes him 30 seconds to drink each bottle. We are looking for someone that can do 2 turns for us: the one at Midnight and the one at 3 am if possible. Do you know if there is any independent nannies that do the service.
Please will appreciate if you will let us know. Is around 6 hours maximum.

With kind regards,

Charlotte (07860783155 ) and Alfonso

Hi.
I have a fantastic day and night nurse.
Her website is www . thebabynurse.co.uk
Wonderful with ds.

arc I'd suggest starting your own thread, and honestly at 19mo I'd look at getting a sleep consultant to help you night wean to give you a long term solution.