Nannies- how do you reject someone nicely for a job?

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After seeing some awful cvs finally been lucky enough to see two fab nannies - there really wasn't much to choose between them but have made a choice in end. What can I say to losing candidate? I really liked her and know she was keen for job but she just lost out o other candidate who knows dd (friends with current nanny) and more relevantly her English and style prob slightly more suited to dd.
Any tips on putting it nicely as I am in position of being sorry to say no (although am confident made ight decision)?

Be honest and straight. Thank her for the time she spent meeting with you and your family. Tell her that you thought she was a very strong candidate and that you we impressed with her experience. However you decided to offer the position to someone you felt was a better fit for DD. And wish her luck for the future.

I definitely wouldn't mention that the person you have gone with is someone you already knew. If they hadn't be friends with your nanny, would she still have got the job?

I would say you have gone with someone who has more experience. I used to be a nanny and got all the jobs I wanted but I think that would have been the least upsetting reason not to get offered the job.

No it wasn't reason - and to be honest it's not really a factor except in so much I know she does know area and activities. Nanny also been good as merely passed on my details and said it's up to us. I haven't actually met her before.

Point out all her really good points and what you were impressed with but say DD clicked better with the other candidate.

What do you mean by her 'English and style' suited your DD better? Was this candidate not EMT or did she just have a slight accent? No harm in saying you've gone for an EMT nanny (if you have) but wouldn't cite this as a reason if it was just an accent thing. I wouldn't mind being passed over for a job if my French or German wasn't up to the standard of the other native speaker candidate if all else was equal. You have to choose somehow.

Neither were emt (nor is current nanny) and it was more a concern of dh than me that nanny2 was at times har to follow. You are right tho that wouldn't mention this as bottom line is main reason is other nannys experience and dd response to her.

You don't have to give reasons at all - just that you've gone for another candidate - it's all about personal fit, and she'll understand that (or she should, or she wouldn't be a good candidate anyway!).

But if you are worried that she will ask you why, and you want to have a reason ready, then why not offer her something that you know she can work on, and improve her CV and chances? Thus it would be good I think to say that your other candidate's English was rather better, so that she can decide to take more classes or whatever. But something tangible that can (if she decides) be "fixed" is going to be easier to hear than something that's out of her own control.