Can I have your opinions please (live-in nannies particularly)

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Hello all.
We have a live-in nanny who has been with us for 9 months. She is great with our daughter, looks after her well etc and they get on really well.
Her working hours are Mon-Wed 7.30-.5.30. (For a bit of background she was with us full time for four months and then when our DD started nursery this changed to three days but she still lives with us full time, that was the agreement from the beginning and everyone is happy with it. Basically I wanted continuity of care for our DD and thought this was best).

She rarely goes out (but that is a different thread) and has dinner with us every night, which we prepare and which is fine with us. The thing that really bugs me is that she washes up on average once a month if that. Now, of course it is not in her contract that she washes up but I just thought it was common curtesy to share the washing up, setting table etc if you are eating dinner with people. If my husband cooks, I'll wash up and the other way around but she never does it, or hardly ever. We sit down and have dinner and then when she's done she drops her plate in the sinks and walks off to watch tv.

Would it be a bit off for me to say something? Or am I being a bit of a pushover?

How does it work with other people in live-in posts, or with live-in nannies?

I can't help thinking that she is taking the mick as, in the evening we have all done full day's work and it is only fair that we share duties around meal times.

leaving cuppa in kitchen is fine for the nanny

no need for naked mr boffy in her bedroom (or even his, if got a male nanny)

now has a v odd mental image of mr boffreaches for the mind bleach

Mr Boff is looooovely, to Dr Boff, anyway

sure he is as lovely as dr boff

One of my acquaintances in My Former Life As A Grand Person said she had a gay butler precisely to avoid tea delivery problems of this nature.

As HM The Queen Mother allaegedly put it,

"Is there an old queen down there who might care to bring a Dubonnet up to an old queen up here?"

pmsl

i have db at home today and i have made him 2 cuupas of poffy (earl grey tea)

he puts the kettle on, i do the rest

My lovely temp made me a nice sarnie on her first day as I was running around organising things and had got peckish.

She's so nice I could cry!

bless her, i did offer db a sandwich but he wanted a sausage

Mr Boff is in fact lovelier than me. he is exceptionally lovely. Although his late mother used to come up to me regularly and say things like "Thanks so much, dear, for taking him on" whilst hugging me tightly.

lovelier than boffy - never