help! Ds crying and begging not to be left at CMs, usually is 100% fine.

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MMore details: he's 2.5 and seems well, ie no colds or anything.

Sometime he says that he doesn't want to go to CMs but this is rare and her's been going for a year and a half with no problems at all.

This morning he was in tears for about 10 mins and CM had to prise him off of me. Usually he runs off without a backward glance!

This was quite upsetting, does anyone have any experience of way this might happen? We have just had a long wkd together, I have Friday and Monday off with him.

I am at a bit of a loss. DH will do drop off tomorrow but it seems strange that he 'suddenly' doesn't want to go.

I am preg, but not really showing or talking about it much.

Sorry for long post - any replies would be much appreicated.

My DD was about this age when she would scream all the way down the road to the nursery (and she could scream very load!!). It is a phase but a very tough one for mums.

I wouldn't worry about it too much, nearly all the children I have minded have had a period (sometimes after being with me for a long time) of not wanting to stay, its usually short lived. Sometimes something could have happened without you realising it, has she taken on any other children? or has he missed you for any reason recently?, it could be just a phase.

Talk to your childminder, agree on how to deal with it, if it continues.

I usually encourage a really quick drop off, I also found walking the child, instead of carrying the child in helps (as they would automatically hold on), sometimes I would bring one of my bunnies in which would automatically draw their attention, or have their favourite activity/toy ready, even asking them to show me where they put their lunch box etc. and I would text mum to tell her as soon he/she is OK. 98% of the time they stop within minutes of mum leaving - leaving you feeling awful, while they are fine.

thank you for the replies! He was fine today, dh did drop off. My CM is great but doesn't share information very well so not sure what's happening at hers. I have amde up a weekly calender so he can see when he's going so it's not a shock each day.

Thanks for the tips regarding the books, will order one today, we do stories at bedtime so that will be perfect.

fingers crossed it was a one off.

It concerns me a little that you say your childminder doesn't share info very well. Under the guidelines of the EYFS we have to work in partnership with parents, sharing information on the children we care for.

This may be a time to start afresh with her, tell her that your DS is getting a bit anxious and you would like to have a bit more information on what he is doing during the day so you can chat to him at night about it.

I do daily diaries for all my under 5/6's listing their activities, moods, what they ate/drank, nappies, sleep and any other things I feel the parents might like to know, I also do learning journey - charting their progress and always chat on a daily basis.

Hummm Rosie, you have hit the nail on the head. I would love my cm to do those things...and we did ask her to but they kind of got lost along the way.

I admit that I have liked my complete ignorance of what he does all day, as I know I am a control freak and if I knew what was going on I would probably want things done a different way. Does that sound crazy?

In an ideal world I would probably move him to nursery now or a different childminder. However he'll be going to pre-school nursery in September. If I move him now it's more upset, then new baby comes along, then he moves again.

Also he's being more clingy with me in general, so maybe it's not her, it's the fact she's not me.

I do like the fact that she's had him since he was one, so he is 'one of the family' and hangs out with her 12 year old and her 25 year old son.

Arrgghhhhhhh! Sorry for long and boring post. I guess I am not 100% happy but think the alternatives might not be worth the upheaval.

Thank you being my sounding board!