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getting an au pair

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NortheastDot · 09/01/2010 10:20

Following 8 months ill health from which I am now recovering, I'm thinking about getting an au pair to help with the school runs, after school care for one 6 year old to make life more manageable when I return to work. Has anyone any experience of this? How do I go about it? What are the things to watch out for?

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sandripples · 09/01/2010 10:32

I had au pairs for 4 years and it was very positive. I used a NW based agency so not sure if they'd cover your area - it was called Au Pairs Direct and was based in Hale or Bowden. They had a link with a NE agency too.

My main tips are;

  1. Select carefully. Think carefully about the area you live in and therefore who it would suit. eg we live in a rural area and its not easy to reach a city so I went for young women who had also lived in the country/small towns.

2.Telephone to interview the candidates and be careful to prepare the questions you want to ask. Allow an hour each. Its an opp to find out how much they have considereed the move, about their experience with children via siblings or baby-sitting etc, and what they are interested in.

3.Be very honest in that interview about your family, what your are interested in, the jobs you expect and the area you live in - the drawbacks as well as nice things! It helps if you have some common interests eg one of our's was v keen to come to us because we had a piano and an interest in classical music. Another was keen on walking which we are too.

4.TReat your au pair as you would a duaghter- part of the family. Some emploers exploit their au pair and it is miserable for everyone.

5.Invest a lot of time in the au pair o the first two months - take her around, introduce her to possible contacts, take her to the first English class, give lots of info re local transport and facilities, and allow time to answer a lot of questions, explain clearly how you would like things done, and what is important. This is an effort but it repays you later.

6.Depends on your au pair but we found the local Ramblers was a brilliant social network for 2 of ours!

  1. Help your children understand a little of the county the au pair is from - encourage them to try recipes and dishes from that country.

WE have found long lasting friendships with our au pairs and have been to three of their weddings! Good luck.

HarrietTheSpy · 09/01/2010 10:47

I think sandripples has laid out a 'best practice' scenario here for potential au pairs. All this investment in them would pay dividends.

However. I would add that if you are recovering from an illness this level of input into your helper could be really tiring.

My point is, don't discount the option of a childminder or a part time nanny/mother's help as well as this may be more suitable than having someone in your home who is expecting to be 'part of the family.'

We have an au pair but I am not the most experienced of the bunch on here with regard to living with them, so I'm sure others will come along with more to add, it's just some of my thoughts.

NortheastDot · 09/01/2010 11:26

Thanks very much for this. I need to sit down and have a good think about the exact nature of the help I need and what we can offer as a family. At the moment, I'm just trying to get things up and running again while keeping some slack / time for r and r. Less haste, more speed, I think !

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