left in soiled nappy entire day

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Hi

I'm really concerned. When I picked up my daughter from the childminders this evening she mentioned that we forgot to pack nappies. I apologised, of course, since it was an oversight. But then the child minder said that she had no spare nappies to use so she left my daughter in a wet nappy for the entire day. I was really shocked to hear that! I asked her what is my daughter had done a poo, to which she replied that she doesn't know what she would have done. I asked why she did not use the other childrens' nappies and she said that they wouldn't fit (but those children are the same age as my daughter).

I was so shocked that I just left there and then and my daughter kept whimpering all the way home because she was so uncomfortable. As I walked on home, whoch takes about half an hour, I kept thinking about what the child minder said and it just seems really wrong. Why didn;t she call us? Or buy some nappies and ask for money back? We almost never forget to pack her bag - its not as if this is a regular occurrence and we needed to be taught a lesson?

I'm really worried about the fact that the child minder had done that? Has anyone else had a similar experience? Can I complain about the child minder?

Do not underestimate an uneasy feeling. Imo gut feelings/uneasy feelings are you picking up on non verbal communication. It sounds like you have made the right decision to give notice.

fwiw I had a similar "uneasy" feeling with dd2's nursery. (I am not anti-nursery btw, dd1 went to the exact same nursery and was fine) In our case we removed dd2 and she has thrived at her cms, almost like a different child.

Hope you manage to find suitable alternative childcare very soon.

A friend of mine had problems with her CM and put her in a nursery instead. She is so much happier being away from that particular minder - hope all works out for you.

Do not ever take your child back there!

I would be fuming. Whatever her feelings towards you, she has neglected a ONE year old! There is a huge number of ways in which she could have obtained a nappy (and size does not matter - child presumably could have comfortably worn 4, 4+, 5 or 6).

-get one from another child's bag
-get one from cm friend at toddlers
-get one from any mum at toddlers
-buy a packet
-keep spares in house

I am shocked - if you had forgotten shoes, would she take the child barefoot in the snow? It's ridiculous and you should not subject your child to another second with someone who thinks a 1yo baby is a pawn!

If you put a complaint in the book ???(nanny not CM sorry) could she simply not tear it out come inspection time? Especially if you are leaving.

Personally I'm not sure whether I would call OFSTED or not. This could be a one off and it might damage her reputation.

However, she was bang out of order for doing what she did, the thought horrifies me and I would def be looking for other childcare.

Take her to task tomorrow, don't hold back, give her very loud and clear signals that you are not at all happy with what happened.

I would even go as far as to say that I was considering contacting OFSTED. It might make her sit up and take notice.

Just to add to what others have said. It is complelty wrong for her to be acting as she has, it brings all childminders into disrepute.

1. the nappy thing could be sorted out in many differant ways, it is neglect pure and simple for her to leave your child in the nappy all day - I would be making a complaint to OFSTED on that alone.

2.No supervision or interaction at toddler groups- we all need a cuppa and a break sometime but fgs not at the expense of the childs safety and stimulation. I have sadly witnessed this from CMs locally which is now why i go to differant groups as i ended up playing with all their kids plus my own

My feeling is this woman does not really want to be childminding and should get out of it for the sake of the children tbh! if this is what she is like to your face/in public, what the hell is she like behind closed doors

leaving in one nappy is neglect - can not beleive that a cm doesnt have spares/or uses another parents one or goes to shop and buys a small pack and bills you

my friend came over and stayed one evening and baby had sore bum/teething so chnaged lots and she ran out after another explosion - this was about midnight -so no shops open

so i made up one using a towel and folded like a resubale nappy, then added babywipes/kitchen towel as a liner and covered in a carrier bag and made holes for feet - was a right sight but managed till got home and got new nappies

leaving child alone/not telling you at a playgroup would be sackable to me

but as you have given notice there isnt much else you can do - unless you pay notice and not use

i would also complian to ofstead about her

I would put in a formal complaint in her complaints book (which she is required to have).
Once you have had a formal reply to the complaint from her then involve ofsted if she has not dealt with it in a satisficatory way (which IMO is not possible).

If parents don't put in complaints then there is no way of future parents finding out the appauling way she treats children.

This makes me so very - there are so many fab CM out there

(FWIW I am a parent who has complained to ofsted about a previous CM about something less serious than this)

Thats awful, i would get rid