Delicate regarding potential nanny

[livvy1]

Hello,

I'm new to mumsnet and have found a nanny for next April who seems lovely.

I really like her but have been advised not to employ her as she was abused as a child.

I don't want to go into much detail but am wondering what peoples initial reaction to this would be?

My understanding of the OP's reason for posting was that her initial reaction was to ignore this piece of information, but that other people were encouraging her not to ignore it, making her doubt her own judgement and turn to the MN jury for advice.

Not an expert in this by any means, but FWIW I would like to think I would ignore this information and employ the nanny (assuming she was suitable and passed CRB checks etc, obviously).

livvy1 - I'm sorry that you've found yourself in this position. It is a difficult one and tbh (to be honest) I'm not sure what I would do in your situation. I think I would want to discuss it with her, but I am not sure that if 'legally' that would be a good idea. I don't think it would be fair not to employ her because of these rumours, but at the same time IMO (in my opinion) ANYTHING that makes you uncomfortable about leaving your child with someone is a good enough reason not to employ them - no matter what it is (hope you understand what I mean).

Also, if I was in your position & finding a nanny so far in advance, I would have a back up plan, just in case she gets a better offer in the meantime. April is still a good while away.

I'm with Laquitar. You are not only asking a redundant question if, as you've said, these 'facts' are not important to you, but you are also further spreading these rumours. There are plenty of people that post on MN who know each other in rl and she may not want all and sundry to know?

Please go by the crb check, and with your gut instinct. If you felt she was right for the job when you offered it to her then that's the right decision.

Poor girl. Does she know it is 'common knowledge' and that you have had reactions from 'some people I have spoken to'.

Hopefully I have mis-interpreted and it is not such a cause for gossip as your posts would suggest.

As hopefully said other peoples opinions prompted me to ask (first time mum and first time childcare as not an expert)

Having thought things through I have decided to employ this nanny as she is my preferred candidate - she already has a CRB and is qualified.

I don't feel able to discuss it with her and actually don't think it's my place or my business.

ChippingIn I do have the option of a nursery but would much prefer a nanny.

drinkyourmilk - I take your point about further spreading these rumours and am going to see if it is possible to get this thread removed or at least my second post.

It is a really hard step to trust someone with your child who you carried and gave birth to and have been raising. It is a very difficult decision you are making because in an interview interviewees sell themselves to get the job and are unlikely to state small worries and personal details.
I think the aggressive attitude towards Livvy on this thread is unnecessary and horrible.
Livvy I agree with the general tone of the messages, she is no more likely than any other individual to be an abuser. I think it would be upsetting for her if you start telling her how her personal information is 'common knowledge' and so you'd have to think about how you were going to do that, but maybe she does have a right to know that you've been 'informed' but you are ignoring the gossip.

glad you are ignoring the gossip(tho true, my heart goes out to her for what her family member did ) and employing her

but if i were this nanny, and this INFO about her is such common knowledge i personally would want to know - plus the fact if i were this nanny i would prob go and slap the lady who told you