hi everyone
i really need some advice. i went to see my old family today but when i got there mb and db weren't home so i was just with the little boy and the new nanny. i was really horrified at the way she treats him and interacts with him because she shouts all the time and she doesn't have any patience. he can be stubborn and awkward sometimes but she just doesnt seem like she can handle him. when he didn't want to put his coat on she was grabbing his arms and pushing them into his coat and was really close to his face shouting that if he didn't put his coat on then they were going to be late for school and it would all be his fault. he's a really good kid underneath it all but sometimes he just gets stubborn and won't do what you want. when i was there she didn't play with him at all she just let me do that and she was doing something else.
she's quite nice to the older children and they seem to hug her loads and say they like her but she's still quite shouty with them and says they don't do as they're told and it makes her so cross. she said that when we were in the kitchen together because i helped her get tea ready. she was whinging loads about mb and db as well and how they never come home on time and she has to babysit lots and sometimes they both go away but i know its not true she babysits lots. just 2 nights a week like i did because mb and db wouldn't take the p even if sometimes they have to go away.
i didn't say anything to mb because i was really embarassed and it felt awkward because the nanny is live in so i couldn't mention it when the nanny wasn't there and now i don't know if i should. i don't think she's putting the kids in danger she just isn't very nice and i don't know what to do because i love those kids so much and the little boy just isn't as happy and settled as he was with me. i know it takes time to adjust but i've been gone for a while now and she wasn't like this on the week we had together. it breaks my heart seeing my little boy treated like that because i looked after him since he was born and if she was my nanny i would be so annoyed that she was treating my kids like that but i don't want it to look like i just don't like the new nanny and i'm jelous.
do you think i should say anything?