HELP

[CharlieandPeanut]

Hi,

I'm a nanny/housekeeper with all my qualifications CRB and Ofted etc.

I am now 20 weeks pregnant and my boss will only have me back without the baby after my maternity. I'm really panicky now as i have always worked really hard and been flexible in my work (have worked as a nanny for around 16yrs) and now i feel like i'm being punished for having my own child. I really wanted to go back to work with my baby and i know that it wouldn't be a problem and i can make it work....what can i do? Will i ever get a job? What about child minding?

Any advice would be great as im feeling really lost. I can't afford childcare and i wanted to look after my own baby not pay someone else.

Charlie

Hi there

I don't have any words of advice, but I'm thinking of getting a nanny for my 2 DDs and someone with their own DC wouldn't put me off. I saw this thread yesterday (am haunting this board at mo to fnd out about nannies!) and it might cheer you up.. : this thread

Good luck, and congrats and good luck with the baby!!

I can understand you wanted to take your baby but it is not your MBs fault you fell pregnant. If you bring your child then your attention to her children are divided plus extra wear and tear on house and a host of other problems. She is not obliged to have you back with baby and tbh can understand her saying no. It's not that you are being punnished for having a baby but having been a good nanny for 16 years does not entitle you to bring your baby to work. It wouldn't happen in an office so why assume it would now?

If you don't want to return to current job without baby then I'm afraid you will have to look for a new job. Good luck

I think you will either have to change familes or gi back without you child.
Childminding will probably be your only option after all, you never see the lady in the bank bouncing her baby on her knee at work, or a police officer pushing their kiddy in a buggy while chasing criminals do you?!

i think i would look for an other family or do childminding. there is no point in you paying someone to look after your child will you have fun with someone elses while thinking my baby would love this. i am a childminder i use to be a nursery nurse but decided to childmind when i fell pregnant for that very reason i was not paying to put my child in a nursery while i wrked in a nursery watching other children its not fair. childminding is great plus mean your child will always be in there surrounds and you set the rules for your service as thats what it is you are not being paid to do a job describtion that parents set you.

Hi,

Thanks for all your advice, and yes i know that it's not my boss's fault and i would probably not want a Nanny with a baby either. Maybe i could child mind until the baby goes to school and then i can go back to a nanny job.

Does anyone know how i go about being a childminder, i have pediatric first aid, crb, qualifications etc. I live in a really lovely cottage with downstairs bathroom.

Any advice greatly appreciated xx

are you in england contact ofstead and start gettin everything sorted so that once you have the baby you can decide how long maternity you are taking and its your choice when to go back or if some1 phones you to enquire you will already be registered and can make the choice of whether to start wrk or tell them you are still on maternity its upto you

thanks i will contact ofstead.

x

This may sound harsh but why do nannies think they can take their children to work with them - on the whole mothers who work can't take their children to work with them - so why do we as nannies think we can/should be able to bring our children with us.

Just an observation by a fellow nanny

Charlie - you need to contact your local Families Information Service about becoming a childminder. They arrange a briefing meeting and if you are still interested then arrange for you to do the ICP course (every childminder has to do it, regardless of if they have higher level childcare qualifications). The registration process can take 4-8 months typically I would say.

There is much more paperwork involved in childminding than being a nanny, you will need to follow EYFS. If you look through the messages on this board (there are many pages, going back through the past few years) you will find lots of advice about registering as a childminder, plus information about Ofsted Inspections and issues that come up running your own Childminding business.

Lifeinagoldfishbowl - No idea why some childcarers think that. As you say, if the job didn't involve caring for children, then the chances of being able to take your child to work with you are likely to be Zero.

i think its because the job is caring for children then nanny see it as they can care for other children while caring for the own.

You're not Hantspants nanny are you

You must be Hantspants's nanny!

charlie - your current family may not want you back and that is their progative(sp) but there are many famillies who dont mind employing nannies who are mums+bring their own child to work

join some agencies and place some ads on netmums/gumtree

wait till you have given birth and then once you are more with it/ got baby in a routine have a look for jobs

No i'm not hotpants nanny....whoever that is? In my current job the boy is at school so i only take him and pick him up. In the holidays he is with his parents or in holiday club so i thought it would be ok to have my baby at work while i'm doing the household duties.

Oh well, i'm sure i will manage and find something.

CharlieandPeanut
Discuss it with them - but they may perceive this as a nanny share and negotiate a reduced rate. Or they may not and continue to pay you the same. It's worth asking and even if you take a pay cut you could make more than you would as a CM and have a lot less hassel, with the training and the paperwork involved in that, not to mention the wear and tear on your house.

do they really need you to do the house hold duties could you not just wrk in the morning leaving you baby with partner or grandparent take to school spend day with baby drop back off at however then pick up again from school or would that be a massive drop in income you could maybe do it a day or 2 so that your not putting you baby in childcare 5 days a week maybe just 2 or 3 days and on those days you can do the household duties