Ok we have had an au pair with us for 9 months. she has been great the only excpetions being 1/ she left all my clean wet washing on top of teh washing machine and washed and hung ehr own leaving mine to get dog and cat mashed.. i pulled her up on it over then phone as she had gone out... no i wasnt subtle but was very annoyed... and the recent issue with drink driving.. that was again an issue in saturday. So on sunday she returns home with one of her buddies in tow who is part of a grup of older mums that im not a fan of.. but have i add never stopped her from seeing.... and strats on how she cannot live with us as i am rude and unapproachable... unkind.... curt...and because she quote... 22 and should be out enjoying herself....cough cough... i add at this point i have changed shifts at work so she can go to parties/ meetings etc...as for unapporacable she has never had a problem asking me for money early.. loan her money to pay off her uk overdraft ( we are in aus) and is generally been lovely to have around. sits watches tv with us on an evening... even on saturday was helping make dinner?? as this said she has now gone.. well left on sunday night ofering at least to look after the children but not live here for 3 weeks... I refused as i feel i cant have someone loking after my children who thinks i am unapproachable? what happens when theres a problem? then problem b would she turn up? however we are really conbcerned taht her choice to move has been influenced quite heavily..... cough....by these older mums who are not in my fan club! she just cahnged so much in only 24 hours. the only big change we had was that we withdrew our daughter from school as she was being bullied by one of the older mums groups daughter's... she will be ome schooled till the end of the year.. which was ideal for the au pair as she wanted to do her PGCE next year and what would have looked better?? those were her words on saturday to one of my friends. so totaly mistified..but i am concerned enough to be thinking maybe i should report my concerns to her mother... i have an email address for her, but then thsi girl is 22... does live at home normally however...so i just dont know.. do i wait and presume if her mum is worried about her daughtershe will contact us? or do i be proactive and contact her and just say look this is all odd.. i hope she is ok? any suggestions.. i know we wouldnt have her back.. obviously.... bt am concerned as she lived as part of our family for 7 months.. we all got on very well, just normal family stuff. ????