Question for childminders, how long would you give it?

[Somewhereovertherainbow]

First day back at work for me = very stressful!

Baby left with my childminder. He has had 4 half days with her, no major problems, a few tears, but not much.

Today, he started crying at 10am and apparently, didn't stop all day. Didn't eat his dinner, or his tea, drank a little milk.
Childminder has said if she has one more day like that, she will not have him again.

I am in floods of tears, I need to work, and I feel like the worst mother in the world.

She had her two grand daughters there today, 8 months and 2.5 years and another little mindee 2 years old and a friend round with some mindees and I think that was all too much for my baby.

I don't think that such a houseful helped him to settle, and want to tell that may have contributed to him having such a miserable day, but I do need to be tactful though, especially as she has said ONE MORE day like that and she is quitting!

How long would you persevere minding a miserable baby, how long do they normally take to settle?

It went much better yesterday and today. CM only had DS and her other mindee, so house was nice and quite and they were able to go out for a walk, which always gets DS off to sleep.

Ate most of his dinner and has tea, drank most of his milk, so much more settled.

He did cry a bit, but not the awful non-stop crying of last week, so I feel a little better and not so guilt ridden at leaving him

I wrote down all his likes and dislikes and gave it to CM some time ago, when he was having his settling in sessions, maybe I need to print it out again and give it to her, as a reminder.

Have always had a good relationship with CM so the threat to "ban" him after one bad day was a real shock!

Thank you for all your replies and I will update on how it is going.

Glad it all went OK for you. I always find that its important for the parents to be happy as much as the mindee She should have the 'likes and dislikes' on file but it won't hurt just to go through them with the CM again and maybe 'tweak' them here or there.

Update, as promised. He has settled, first couple of weeks were rather "rocky" but now when he comes home he is happy and content. Such a relief! And I am so much happier and no longer feel like a Bad Mother.

Thank you to everyone who replied, it really helped to read other people's views and experiences.