DS is just 2, and has been going to our CM 2 days a week since April. I liked her when we met, as she seemed laid back and unflappable. I posted here about him being a bit reluctant to go after she came back from her holidays.
The thing is, he's still saying "no like X's house" and he's now also really negative about her daughter (who he loved initially) and her pets. This morning he put the brakes on as we turned into her house and by the door he was crying and clinging onto me. And when I left a few minutes later he wasn't even crying, he just looked plain frightened and was reaching out for me really desperately.
Having said that, last week both days he went no problem - he was a bit teary for a few moments but then she distracted him and he waved me off and went to play. DP collects him and he's always fine, not overly bothered about DP's arrival or even going home. He's without fail completely hyperactive, exhausted and manic though.
Maybe some of it is that I feel guilty that I can't stay home with him and feel doubly rotten that I'm not leaving him somewhere he's happy. And it's my guilt that's skewing my view of the situation.
Or maybe he's actually unhappy and could be somewhere he'll be more settled. The CM says "he's fine", but she always says that. In a kind of not-that-bothered way.
I'm going to meet with her next week to talk it over but I'm thinking her laid-back-ness will mean she doesn't really see a problem. He just doesn't seem, to me, to have clicked with her though. But maybe it's too soon to expect it of a two year old? Except he doesn't seem so tense with family members who he sees less regularly.
Bit of turmoil going on here, can you tell?