CM CLUB - I HAVE A CRUSH ON A DAD

[CMwithacrush]

Name changing reg for obvious reasons!!

I am having serious problems with one mindee's dad in that I have a raging crush on him, keep thinking about him, dreamt about him the other night even.

I am married, he is married, he hasn't given any sign of anything other than friendliness ( well the odd wink and you look different today, had you hair done?)

Has anyone else had this happen?

I've cared for his children for over a year now and love them to pieces, I like Mum, we've just been talking for about 20 mins on the phone although I wouldn't say we were friends by any means.

Finding it increasingly hard to look at him without imagining what it would be like if he kissed me.

Should I terminate?

I think if you value your self-respect and your profession then you need to nip this in the bud. You are being seriously unprofessional and are jepodising a family and your career. The former is unforgiveable.

As long as you keep it as a secret crush and tell no-one and have absolutely no intentions of acting on it - then I'd leave things be.

If you don't think you can do the above - erm.... I'm not sure. Terminating him seems a bit radical and you may well end up in prison

Gosh, this happens to others too???

Had this happen in past. Legs went to jelly, sounded like was pissed when tried to talk to him - then a whole load of verbal diarrhoea came from my gob and I sounded like a total tit . Had to compose myself and rehearse 'chitchat' before he got here every day.

Thought it was just me - thank you for reassuring me.....

Never felt this way bout a mum, have to say

Agree with nbee - terminating him is a bit drastic and would cost you your ofsted registration....

Just make sure you NEVER voice it......ESPECIALLY if the dad has just left for work, he might just pop back for something and overhear

I don't see why you should terminate him the mindee, it's only a crush, it'll blow over.
Reading what you have put I assume you aren't flinging yourself at him in the hopes of an affair!

I don't think it's unprofessional to have a crush, it's human nature but acting on it, that would be an entirely different matter.

OP & UPOW - you definitely aren't alone in the dad thing I mean, I haven't crushed on a Mum (yet)

Lots of people have idle fantasies. Childminders are usually too busy. Your current mindees must be too undemanding. I could offer you a trade, in the interests of your mental wellbeing. Or you could get some more of your own (check first that both parents are unattractive).

oggle in his your dreams NEVER make a move

he is probably just being friendly

dont ruin your professional relatioship, and possibly career

too much sun

meant to say

oggle him, in your dreams

I had a crush on one of my daughters friends dad.... untill I got to know his wife a bit better and she started filling me in with lots of his bad habbits, which made me realise its better just to dream, because in reality they are all the same

just enjoy the fantasy but never ever try to turn into reality.. you will ruin your life, their life and your career.. no man is worth that!!!!

mind you if Angelina comes ringing me yup for looking after all those kids I might be tempted by that dad.. lol..

hi everyone, just joined and would you believe it a thread for just my problem, just might be too late.
Not sure what to do, mind and heart are racing and I don't think it will blow over as suggested, he is a bit of a dream, a real dream.
I mean what would you have done Rosiegirl if you had not found out he had bad habits, I think I want too do something but need reassurance either way.
Help?????

Hello naughtygirl3 - I think you may benefit from starting a thread all of your own in 'Am I Being Unreasinable?'

Unreasonable obviously.

I don't know about "crush" but I did find one of my dads attractive until the mum described in detail the hairstyle and make up he used in the 80s. It coloured - quite literally! - every subsequent thought of him