Would you be offended if your childminder didn't invite you to her wedding?

[LoveMyGirls]

Yes or no answers will do.

TIA

obviously the last thing I want to do is offend but also as dittany says I do want the day for myself and close friends and family, I don't want to feel I need to look after anyone on the day, I know if they all came I'd feel like I had to spend time talking with them and entertaining the children (I know they wouldn't expect me to but I know what I'm like, the dc's would want me to play with them like I usually do) I'd also feel uncomfortable about drinking because I have my professional head on when I'm with them. I want to be able to really enjoy and relax and it to be the happiest day of my life.

I wouldnt be offended at all, or even expect it.

no. wouldnt want or expect to be asked.. professional relationship and not friends,,,

no

No
I didn't invite my boss to my wedding.

no

no

'Would you be offended if your childminder didn't invite you to her wedding?'

Nope, I wasn't invited to a parents wedding, thought nothing of it tbh.

'By PotPourri on Mon 29-Jun-09 12:56:17
No. I can see why you would feel offended, especially on children's behalf as she will be like family to them. But alas, she is effectively employed by you. I didn't invite my boss to my wedding, and if doing it again, wouldn't invite any of my team either. '

CMs are NOT employed by parents.

No.

no

and Jennipenni beaten me to it!
now repeat after me everybody...

Childminders are SELF EMPLOYED - they are not employees!

No, not remotely.

I would expect an invite from her, nor would I have invited her to my own wedding

wouldn't !!!

No,infact I would probably be relieved, I hatre going to weddings where you hardly know anyone.

No. But we are invited to the pre-wedding drinks for our cm's eldest daughter.

Which is lovely but it's true we won't know anyone there.

I'm glad it's just the drinks cos I'd be a bit embarrassed to be invited to the whole lot.

I would HATE them to feel they had to do it.

Nope but would insist on a bit of cake though

Yeah, alright. Don't get your knickers in a knot. They are self employed, providing services to you then.

Enjoy your day. If anyone gets offended about not getting invited, then they're being precious

well i think yes i would we are supposed to offer a home to home environment and your wedding is going to have a impact on those children you care for so yes i would invite them in fact my childminder (before i was a childminder) was my bridesmaid for good sake, we had a fantastic relationship she was like another mother to my children.

i cant beleive the majority state no im truly shocked!

that sounds like you were friends first though before you were her cm.. different ..
I like all my parents but we are not on social terms of friendships.. wouldnt like that as could muddy professional relationship..

You are absolutely right not to invite them. It's your day, and if you even remotely feel like you might feel a bit responsible for them, and have to 'look after' parents and play with kids then that should be enough to put you off. Obviously if you want to play with kids during your wedding day then that's fine, but you don't want to be in a situation where you feel you have obligations.

Plus you should be able to completely relax and enjoy yourself. I totally understand what you mean about professional self being different to your private self. I repeat, this is your day, make sure it stays that way!

As a cm, I have been to mindies parents wedding , and when our DD got married, we invite all parents and the older children to the evening do. We also included past mindies and parents who had invited us to mindies christenings/confirmations even tho I no longer cared for the children.

I think each family need to be concidered individually, but that is just my opinion.

NO

(but when i eventually one day get married i would love all my charges to be there )

No.

But I should add that I currently hate attending weddings!!

Unless you were friends with them, then no. My Mum was good friends with many of the families she cm'ed for and they got invited to family things, but then, they were good friends, the ones who she didn't get along with as well weren't invited, no reason to be!

No though I did invite one of my families (not bosses but clients!) to my dd christening but that is because ds asked if x could come to play at the party.