my host family have cancelled!

[italyhereicome]

I arrived here on June 15th (last monday). The grandmother has been ill, they knew that she was coming to live with them before I came. That is WHY they needed my help with the little boy.
On Friday evening, the father takes me aside and tells me that things have changed, and that the grandmother is worse than they thought, and that there is no room here for me anymore.
I gave up my flat in Birmingham to have a year in Italy. There is not much room at my parents house, so my mum is not very happy at me coming home to say the least!
Should I ask them to pay for some of the airfare or what?
I understand that she is ill, but this as screwed me up big time.

She can still be censored by her professional organisation for conducting unbecoming or bringing the profession into disrepute, which could be a fine and an entry on her professional record.

Have you found the bit about what is an employee under Italian law?

First off, sorry your in this position.

I posted a parcel from Palermo, Sicily to Gloucester, UK upto 30kgs for £87.97 inc extra insurance with Fast Lane door to door. Have a look.

dad: no! can you link? i am registered.

that is still a lot more than i can afford tbh but thanks matnanplus.

ok, i have just had a massive chuck out and i still have one and half suitcases. So I am relooking at trains and coach.

nice-paris on train -E58.90
Paris-London on euroline coach - E31

i am more than happy to sit on a coach/train all day, and it WOULD get around the whole problem of me having extra luggage...

what a family! that absolutely awful how they behave. doing you a favour, omg. sorry i cant be more helpful, everything i could suggest has already been said. hope your parents are beeing more supportive now as thats very bad if you cant turn to your own parents for help. my parents are great in this respect. btw i worked for lots of lovely families in the uk and one in geramny so please dont be put off. i am sure you'll find the family for you.

my mum and dad are angry and think the family should pay. Mum paid for me to come out here, new clothes, and other stuff, so she has shelled out quite a bit already. if i asked her too, she would pay for my flight, of course she would. but i don't want to take the piss. (she had left her phone @ work, thats why she didn't answer!! she wasn't ignoring me!!)

Train/coach is the way to go. And you can schedule a quick interview in Paris - have e-mailed you!

I got your email about passing on my details. Does their surname begin with Bai? someone has just emailed me from aupairworld.

Italyhic for 20kgs it could be about £42.

If you did train / coach you would see the country at least.

ok. so this morning i looked a lufthansa and the price has shot up from 66E something to over 200!

I have booked a train from Varazze to Nice, then a flight from Nice to Luton. about E100 in total.

I will leave a suitcase here and arrange for it to be sent either to England or France when I know what I am doing.

Ah! I relooked at the Fast Lane website. I shall be using them! Thank you so much!!
It is about £46+vat,
So, today is my last day, I have to walk into Varazze to buy my train ticket, then I am packing, then I shall be laying on the beach all day. ahhhhhh

Glad you have got it sorted, tho are you sure about leaving your case with the family?

Might be better to arrange collection today/tomorrow?

I don't think so... racks brain to remember what their surname acutally is

Good that people are in touch and hope you work something out!

how are you doing now? all sorted?

Talk about "The best laid plans of mice & men gang aft agley" (R. Burns). Did you teach their youngest that rude word? Wish you all the best in your next job, hope you had a lovely train journey home.

Hello!
in the end i took a train from Varazze to Ventimille (sp) (last town before france apparently) then a train from there to Nice.
Then flew from Nice to Luton.
I even had to make my way from the house to the train station in the town by myself with a massive suitcase and a few carrier bags on the bus. Because the dad had a meeting in Milan at 8.30am, and refused to leave 10mins earlier than he planned to to drop me off!they couldn't even give me a taxi firm name. so bus it was.

The train journey was fine, but my flight was delayed by 2 hours. So I got up at 5.30am, and landed at Luton about 8ish if i remember correctly! Knackered and couldn't sleep on the train for fear of theft!

Fran I have emailed you.

I have had loads of offers from some really nice families, decided on Sunday to go to one family in France, only for them to ring me yesterday saying that they had found someone who wanted to stay for 2 years, not one! I have decided to give it a break for the moment and am now back at work 60hours a week!

At least the money is better....

dammit...thought i had emailed you. says it has timed out and logged me out without saving the longish email! I will rewrite tomorrw!!

oh, and no. i didn't teach the youngest the rude word.
I am still really angry, and trying to piece back the rest of my life atm, with work etc, but part of me is a bit sympathetic for her as her mum IS dying after all.

oh, and no. i didn't teach the youngest the rude word.
I am still really angry, and trying to piece back the rest of my life atm, with work etc, but part of me is a bit sympathetic for her as her mum IS dying after all.

(((((((((((((italyhereicome)))))))))))))))))

sending you lots of hugs - I reckon you need them.

sit by inbox waiting patiently

Should have taught the youngest a whole dictionary of rude words

I sympathise with you italyhereicome. I am in a similar situation myself and it is extremely upsetting. I hadnt moved countries but I had moved to the country from London. I gave up a steady secure job and friends etc to move plus all the hidden costs involved like changing postal addresses, driving license and insurance details etc. I too had the big farewell party etc and now have no idea what I am going to do. I have never been in this situation before where they have changed their minds but unfortunately there is nothing you can do - just makes you realise how vulnerable you are as a live in nanny.

Good luck in your search