I posted a year ago about my childminder whose house was filthy and who left our then 2 year old DD by the side of a busy road while she "popped" back into her house to fetch something.
Well she is history and we have been using another one for about 6 months now. She is Ofsted registered, good with our DD and has a lovely clean house. The problem is I am not sure I like her or some things she has done lately.
On one hand she is great - she bakes with dd, she always has lots of children so lots of company for DD and is always giving DD lots of pressies such as clothes, balls, stationary etc. However she seems to undermine my authority a lot. DD attends a nursery attached to a school. A month ago she told me she hadn't taken her that day because she had 2 babies coming for a trial which I let go. However last week she didn't take DD again and never even told us - we only found out because DD told us they were in Tesco's and didn't have time. WTF? We bought DD a lovely sheepskin coat for winter and the CM gave her a hand me down from another child which is ok but we use it only when the coat we bought her is being washed. Yesterday morning DD said that CM calls it her horrible coat and is always asking why she is not wearing the one she gave us. Also she sometimes does DD's hair in a certain style and one morning I tried to do it. When CM saw it she started saying to DD that mummy couldn't do her hair as well as she can and she would do it again when DD was at her house.
I haven't said anything yet because I hate confrontation. Also we live in a very small town where all the CM's meet once or twice a week in each others houses. If we haven't got on with two of them will we have given ourselves the labels of difficult parents? I don't think we are being unreasonable and we need a CM otherwise we can't work and bills won't get paid. We are already in debt and don't want to find ourselves in the situation where we can't find child care. Should we let it go as DD loves this CM and we have no qualms about her safety or should we say something and risk us having to find someone else?
Problem with Second Childminder - Advice needed
mumtochloe · 11/05/2005 16:16
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