I am not sure about my CM because:

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We have just started and my 10 mth old DS has been quite upset and the CM has been pretty negative. His first full day, on Monday, went ok but she told me she had been dreading it on Sunday (I didn't really want to hear that). She said it went badly today - intermitent tears and no smiles, eating lunch on her lap and she told my mum that she thought he was used to a lot of attention - which he is but he will play quite happily. There are no positive suggestions - just moans about his behaviour.
Also, the tv is on after lunch and was on at 3.30pm today and on at 4.30pm yesterday... The policy says two hours a day.
My gut instinct is telling me that I need to find another childminder as she doesn't seem to have much positive to say about him.
Also, it has only been three settling in sessions and two days so of course he is unsettled and it will get better but she doesn't say anything like that.
Am I being neurotic?
Thank you!

As a cm I think,its odd that your cm has forgoton that a 10month old is a 'baby' and as such cant be dreaded!!

Not read all the messages but I'd get a new childminder if I were you!! Seriously, I've had some awful awful times when baby just cries and cries no matter what I do yet I still be positive about it and talk about what we can do about it and never MOAN - that's soooo unprofessional. I still wouldn't do that now to families I work with and am very close to so if she's like that with a new person, I'd say this isn't the job for her!!! My god, to tell you she was 'dreading' it......it's one thing to feel that way but to say it to you like that is awful. Also, 2 hours tv is A LOT imo. I don't have the tv on as a rule but more recently have started putting it on for about 15 mins twice a day (when preparing meals) to calm the children down (because I have 4 aged young 2 and under and a lot are going through the snatching, hitting sort of phase so it's just safer to have a bit of tv on to chill them out before mealtime )

Sorry this person has made you feel like this

I think your childminders communication skills are maybe not what they should be. As a childminder myself I would read your child's behaviour as that of most 10 month olds in a new environment. The fact that he sat on her lap to eat is a positive thing - he felt secure to do so and eat! Also he didn't cry all day, ok he wasn't full of smiles BUT he didn't cry all day!...again a more positve way to communicate with you about your little one! A suggestion I would make is has your little one a special comforter or is there a certain way he likes to be comforted - what routine does he have with you his mummy etc...? Hopefully all these questions were put to you before your little one started with your childminder.

The childminder said your little one is used to a lot of attention....well that's what good parents do & a little 10 month old will be learning & developing at great speed with positive attention!!

Maybe your childminder put the TV on at certain times to entertain the other children whilst settling your little boy - I'm not making excuses for her as there are other ways to occupy children but perhaps it suited the moment e.g the quickest or maybe the safest option?

It's very early days for all involved and as a childminder I have always found that good communication between childminder & parents is paramount in helping children feel happy, safe & secure...also whilst offering equal care to all the children, each child can have his/her individual needs met.

I would try to talk to your childminder about how you feel and if after that you still have that gut feeling then I would think again but do try to talk about how you feel... she may just not be a good communicator and will only learn from talking with you or if that fails you removing your little one from her care(she will know the reasons why!) Anyway I hope it all works out for you all!

if you have doubts then find a new cm or different childcare