What should I do?

[2anddone]

Hi I am currently minding 3 mindees and ds. Only recently the other 2 mindees joined me but until then it was mindee one and ds. At the weekend the mum of mindee one rang and gave me notice effective immediately. This really shocked me as she said she had made alternative arrangements and wouldn't be coming during the notice period. As I was so shocked I said ok thanks for letting me know and it needs putting in writing I didn't even think to ask of the reason as I was so shocked .
Anyway this was Saturday and I still haven't had a letter to tell me- I also haven't had a reason and I don't understand as have had him almost 2 years. I am paid in advance and my notice period is 2 weeks so have aready been paid for this week and next week is owed as bill the first Monday of the month. Do I send a bill or just leave it? I am really unsure as to why he has left though I did get alot of comments when I first took on the other 2 mindees that it was a shame that I was having more as it was like mindee 1 had his own personal nanny. Am wondering if she has found another cm with no mindees but like I say I am unsure. All his spare clothes, suncream and cup etc is all still here I want to take it round but don't know if this will upset mindee as he left on Fri and hasn't been brought back here so don't now if that will confuse him if he sees me if he is now at another cm? Really don't know what to do am really missing him this is the worst bit of our job

I would give the mum a call and explain that you have bits and pieces of his to return and ask her if she would like to pop in and collect them or she would prefer you drop them round. Maybe you can then say something like "I'm really going to miss LO. Hope he settles well into your new arrangements." She may then open up and explain. If she is still funny with you then I'd ask her straight, "have I done something to upset you/make you want to move your ds?" Hope you manage to find out to put your mind at rest. Very sad that you haven't been able to say goodbye.

She is not answering phone and not replied to my messages. What doI do

send her a text message or e-mail saying you have some of there stuff and the final invoice and would she like you to drop it round or would she like to come and pick it up. failing that send her a letter.

You could do what other posters have said re: wanting to return his things and say goodbye, after all two years is a pretty long time in a childs life and I'm sure you and your own DC will miss him. Also suggest that you need to send on his EYFS stuff to the new provider.

I had a parent that called me at 7am once to say mindee wouldn't be coming anymore (was due at 7.15am) was a bit too as I had looked after for about a year and all had been fine the day before, when I asked mum said that it was to far and was always late for work (we had moved a few months before) I still see parents and mindee about occassionally and they are very friendly and little one blows kisses to us, mum was a bit embarasssed I think at first and I feel just kept putting off saying anything when I contacted re: picking stuff up and the children wanted to say goodbye as they would miss LO she said that she didn't want DC to be upset, so we arranged for them to pop in for stuff when other mindees were gone, had a little play gave a pressy and said see you later LO didn't know wouldn't be coming again, later found out that some domestic issues had arisen and parents had to change work arrangements.

I did wonder like you are if something had happened or if they wern't happy with something, but no they were happy just changed circs.

Thanks atworknotworking. I still haven't heard anything from parents have called, emailed and texted it is really strange. I also have not had the notice confirmed in writing. I am now wondering wether or not to put a letter and all his things in a bag with the final invoice and take it round when I know they are at work and leave on their doorstep, but then if I have done something to upset them, does this look like I am trying to avoid them? It is really hard because I really hae no clue why he has left. Every day my ds says is X coming today? I don't know how to tell him he is not coming back usually I am honest with him because either they have moved on to school or moved house but not sure what to say this time.

Sounds like something might have happened in the family and she doesn't want to talk about it so is ignoring your calls and messages. maybe she is embarressed, maybe she just has way more important things on her mind. Could be any number of life changing family dramas/tragedies which may mean she has to leave work or move suddenly. You've tried to get in touch, I would give her some space now for a bit just incase something awful has happened or something.